Mwana wacho anopiwa kuchikoro chechikoro, mwana anoenda kuchikoro, jaya racho rinopinda yunivhesiti, munhu anotanga kuenda kushanda, uye makore gare gare anobvisa. Iwe uri kutamira kune rimwe guta, kana mushure memakore mazhinji ekugara pamwe chete, murume wako anokusiya iwe ... Zvose izvi "pfungwa dzekutendeuka" kana matambudziko zvinoda munhu kuti aite zvisarudzo, nekuvandudza maitiro matsva ekuzvibata. Tinofanira kuchinja, pasinei nokuti tinoifarira kana kwete.
Iwe unofanirwa kushandiswa kune mamiriro matsva ehupenyu here? Saka, iyi inetso yekugadzirisa. Kuti kubudirire kukunda, zvinokosha kuti usakurumidza, kuunganidza huwandu hwe "ruzivo rwekufungisisa." Zviri nani kutsigira muviri wako nemavhithamini, maawa akawanda ekurara, zvokudya zvaunoda. Iwe uchaona: zvishoma nezvishoma dambudziko richapera pacharo. Izvi zvinoshanda zvakafanana nechechecheche uyo akatanga kuenda kuchikoro chechikoro, uye kune mushandi anotanga kutora chigaro chevakuru. Vanogona kubatsira uye kutsigira hama dzavo kana vakateerera zvakanyatsonaka uye nomutsa kune munhu anoongorora nzvimbo itsva yekugara.
Mhuri dzakawanda dzinopfuura neinoti "nguva yedendere rakasara". Vana vakakura uye vakasiya musha wavo. Vabereki vanojaira matambudziko ehupenyu evana, kamwe kamwe vanowana nguva yakawanda yekusununguka. Vanoda kuwana hutsva hutsva hwehupenyu uye hutsva hwekukurukurirana. Dzimwe nguva matambudziko epanguva yakadaro anogona kukanganisa kurambana kune vakaroorana, avo vakabatana chete nekutarisira vana.
Matambudziko akadaro se "nguva yedendere rakasara" anonziwo existential kana kuti zvinoreva matambudziko. Pamusana pemamiriro ezvinhu, munhu anorasikirwa izvo zvaimbova chinhu chikuru chekuvapo kwake. Inogona kuva kuparadzwa kwehukama hwekare, kuparadzana kana kufa kwewakada, kurasikirwa nebasa. Nzira yekuraramazve sei? Tsvaga chinangwa chitsva. Kana munhu asingakwanisi kugadzirisa dambudziko iri, achabva achinzwa manzwiro ekudzivirira kwepo, mukati mekusina. Kuvhara kwenguva refu mumamiriro ezvinhu aya kunoderedza kusagadzikana, kunotanga kutambudza chirwere - vanachiremba vanovatumidza kuti psychosomatic, ndiko kuti, kunokonzerwa nezvikonzero zvepfungwa, uye kurayira runyararo kumurwere.
Dambudziko rezvinoreva rinowanzoonekwa nevanhu vakasiya basa, kunyanya kana vachida basa ravo. Maererano nehuwandu, vanenge 70% yevanhu vakwegura mune imwe nzira kana imwe inotambura nekunetseka. Kubva kubva mudambudziko iripo kunobatsira kushamwaridzana navanhu uye hupenyu hwehupenyu hwehupenyu. Usarega kubva pamaoko ako! Iwe unofanirwa kuzviedza iwe mumabasa matsva. Kuti uende, unosangana nekirasi uye vaunodzidza navo, shanyira hama dzinogara kune dzimwe maguta uye kunyange mune dzimwe nyika. Iwe unogona kuchinja basa racho, dzoka kuchikoro, dzidza chido chekuita. Somuenzaniso, mumwe mukadzi akwegura akabatsira mwanasikana wake kumutsa mwanasikana wake. Musikana wacho akakura. Pane imwe nguva mukadzi wacho akanzwa kuti mhuri yake yakanga isingadi kubatsirwa, kuti kunetseka kwake kwakagumbura mwanasikana wake uye muzukuru. Uyezve akawana basa semannyani uye akatanga kudzidzisa mumwe musikana wemakore mashanu. Nanny akazova shamwari newaini yake duku zvokuti iye zvino haasi kuparadzaniswa. Upenyu huine chinangwa chitsva!
Pane mumwe wevaya vaunoda anotambura nekuvapo nekuora mwoyo here? Ziva, iye zvino munhu uyu ane dambudziko rechinangwa, kunyanya mukuda kwekutarisirwa kwevanoda. Musamusiya oga ari nemafungiro akaoma! Usanonoka kumunetseka nekushanya kwako, kumbira rubatsiro, kunyange iwe usingachidi kunyanya. Unonzwa kuti unoda mumwe munhu, unopa simba.
... Uye mukati
Iye zvino, matambudziko anokonzerwa nezvinokonzera mukati ndeye matambudziko ane chokuita nezera. Munhu wose anoziva zviratidzo zvedambudziko remakore matatu: negativism, kusindimara, kusagadzikana. Mwana anoziva kuti "Ini", anoedza kuzvimiririra, izvo zvinopesana nenzira yekare yehupenyu, apo zvisarudzo zvose zvakaitwa nevanhu vakuru. Dambudziko rinotevera remakore manomwe rinokonzerwa nekuti mwana anove akaomesera nemhuri yake, anoda hurumende - munharaunda, muchikoro, mune chikamu chemitambo. Dambudziko revechiri kuyaruka rakazvipira kumabhuku akawanda ezvepfungwa, uye zvakadaro zvakanakisisa kukurudzirwa ndezvokuti: "Iva nemwoyo murefu, haisi nokusingaperi."
Kana zvipingamupinyi zvevana zviri, semurairo, pane zvakasungirirwa zvakasungirirwa kune imwe nguva, zvino kune vanhu vakuru zviyero zvezvipingamupinyi zvinokonzerwa zvakajeka.
Somuenzaniso, iwe wakadzidza unyanzvi yunivhesiti, ndokudaro wakaramba uchidzidza kuchikoro, wakaroorwa, akagovera nguva yako pakati pemhuri nebasa, akabudirira kuita basa uye akaedza kuva mutariri weimba. Hongu, iwe unokura saunyanzvi, asi kwete dzose zvinangwa zvakataurwa muhuduku hwako zvinowanikwa newe, uye nzira zhinji yehupenyu yakatopfuura. Kunouya dambudziko - kuongorora kwemafungiro ekare, zvinangwa, zvinangwa.
Chimwe muenzaniso: mukadzi anotendeukira kumudzidzi wepfungwa uye nemisodzi inotaura kuti murume wake haazvizivi - akashandura kamwe kamwe. Haatauri kutaura naye. Akakakavadzana neshamwari dzekare, anokakavara kubasa. Anouya kumba kumba, anogadzika muimba yake. Kuenda kunzvimbo yevahedheni yeBuddhist. "Iwe hauzivi chinhu pamusoro peBuddhism!" - vakadzi mudzimai wake. "Hapana, ndichachikonzera," murume wake anopikisa.
Chii chokupa zano mukadzi uyu? Izvo zvakafanana nevabereki vemukomana anotya, - iva nemwoyo murefu. Dambudziko ndechiitiko chenguva pfupi. Usakakavadzana nemurume wake, gumburwa naye. Isu isu mushure mezvose hatigumburwi nemurwere nekupisa uye hatinomukurudzira kuti abve pamubhedha! basa reunonyanya kupera munguva ino nderokuti uve pedyo ne "anorwara", kurukura naye zvakasangana nazvo, zvichengetedze kubva pane zviito zvekukurumidza uye zvakare: gadzirira kuti munhu wekuzvarwa kwako ave mune chimwe chinhu.
Semhashu, kutendeuka muhovefuru, inopisa, ichivanza mu chrysalis, saka munhu anoda nguva yekubuda panguva yenhamo kuti azvinzwisise, kuti aone kuchinja kwepasi rose kwakaitika mumweya wake.
Nzira yekupona sei dambudziko?
Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti dambudziko rinokosha, asi kwete marwadzo. Ndinofanira kubvuma kuti inguva yekuchinja nekuchinja chimwe chinhu muupenyu hwangu. Ino ndiyo nguva yekushanda nesimba kwemweya, saka tanga nzvimbo yakakodzera iyo! Tora muenzaniso kubva kuhama dzedu duku: paunenge uchigadzirira kuvhara, mhondi inovanza munzvimbo yakachengetedzeka, iyo nyoka inoshandura ganda, inopinda mucheka. Usashandisa zvisina kufanira zvisiri izvo, famba uri woga mumasikirwo. "Nzwisiso ndivo vana vokunyarara," Yevtushenko akanyora. Iko kunyarara mukati kunobatsira iwe kuenda kune imwe nyika itsva. Nzira yekuzvibata munyaya iyi inopesana neyo inofanira kusarudzwa mudambudziko iripo. Deredza mutoro webasa kusvika pane zvishoma, regai varasikirwa nemari, asi vawane rugare rwepfungwa. Tsanangurai kumhuri yenyu kuti ikozvino munoda rugare nerunyararo kupfuura kare.
Mune dambudziko rematambudziko, munhu akawedzera kukakavadzana: edza kusawana hukama. Ramba wakatsoropodza nezvemashoko ako nezviito, tora zvakanaka vamwe vako uye kuremekedza.
Chikanganiso chikuru chevanhu vane dambudziko remakore ndeyekuedza kupa mhosva vamwe nekuda kwekunetseka kwavo mukati. Asi kupa mhosva vamwe nokuda kwezvinetso zvavo chiratidzo chekusava nekugadzikana kwepfungwa uye kusununguka. Usaora mwoyo! Zvibvunze kuti: "Dambudziko iri ringandiunzira chii?" Zvinorwadza kuparadzanisa nechekare reganda. Asi zvakakosha, nokuti inodzivisa kukura.