Matambudziko mazhinji anomuka mukudzidziswa kwevanakomana. Nokudaro, vakachenjera uye vakangwara vabereki, vachida zvakanaka chete kuvana, vachiziva kuti kushungurudzika kwakadaro kunogona kungosiya vana, kazhinji vanogadzirisa demokarasi. Vanoedza kubvumirana. Vanotsanangurira vana kuti vabereki vakwegura, vanoziva zvakawanda, vane hupenyu hwakawanda hunoitika. Saka, ivo vana vachaita urongwa hwakanaka hwehupenyu hwavo hwomunguva yemberi. Kuziva iwe uri muchikoro chakanaka, uye zvino uri mune imwe nzvimbo yakakodzera, sarudza basa rakanaka rakakodzera. Uye vana vari pasi peutungamiri hwedu husina simba vanovhota "nokuda" uye vanomhanyira mune ramangwana rakajeka.
Zvose izvi, hongu, zvinonyengera zvakagadzirwa. Asi munguva yedu, kunyange nevabereki vakangwarira, vana, kunyanya vakomana, vanomanikidza kuedza kusarudza baba kana mai, asi ivo pachavo. Vane chokwadi chokuti vabereki munyika yavo havanzwisisi chero chinhu. Uyezve kukakavara hakugoni kudzivirirwa pakati pavo. Vakomana vose vane utsinye uye vakasindimara pavanodzivirira rusununguko rwavo. Saka chii, chinofanira kuitwa?
Vana vedu vanoda kunzwira tsitsi uye kunzwisisa kuti matambudziko aya anomuka nekuda kwehutano. Iro hormone testosterone ine simba guru pamabatiro evakomana. Uye kukanganisa kwayo kunoita kuti vakomana pamutengo chero upi zvawo kuedza kukunda, vanoita kuti vave nehasha. Kune maitiro akazara mukukudziridzwa kwevanakomana vedu: kuedza kuzvitorera ivo mhinduro yezvinetso zvakakomba zvehupenyu, chido chekutora matambudziko, chido chokutonga, asi vakomana vose vanobudirira nenzira yavo pachavo.
Hapana nzira imwe chete yevakomana vakasiyana vane vanhu vakasiyana. Asi, sevanyori vezvepfungwa vanoti, nguva inokosha inonzi inofanirwa uye inoshanduka kubva panguva yakachengetwa naamai kune simba rababa. Uye kazhinji haudi kurega kuenda kune anenge anenge asvika "mwana" kubva pasi pepiko rako. Asi kana mwana wacho ari pedyo zvikuru naamai vake mukuyaruka, inogona kuchinja zvikuru nguva yake nehupenyu.
Mushure mokuberekwa kubva kuna amai, mukomana anowana zvose - rudo, zvokudya, kuchengeteka. Panguva ino, baba vanoita sevari kumashure. Asi pane mafungiro evanhu vanofunga nezvepfungwa kuti kana baba ndivo makore ekutanga ehupenyu hwemwana vachitaurirana nemwanakomana wavo, zvino zvinopa rupo rwakakosha mune ramangwana rake.
Mafungiro ezvepfungwa nezvehutano hwemwana nezera remakore mashanu ne8 anosvitsa mwanakomana wake kune kukurukurirana kukuru nababa vake. Nokudaro, chirongwa chechirume chekugadzirisa mwanakomana chinowanikwa.
Pakazosvika makore gumi, mwanakomana wega wega anogona kutotanga kupikisa simba reamai. Panguva ino, mukomana anotanga "kuoma." Munyaya ipi zvayo isinganzwisisiki, yakabatana nezvikumbiro zvaamai, mwanakomana anotora nguva, apfeka zvishoma nezvishoma, uye achikumbira kunababa pasina kumutsiura uye nokukurumidza kuzadzisa. Zvakakosha kunzwisisa uye nekunyatsokumbira kumwana kubva kune izvo zvinodiwa, asi pasina mamiriro ekunyora. Kazhinji kazhinji nekuda kweizvi, pakati pemwanakomana naamai, zvidzidzo zvinotanga. Uye pano haufaniri kuyeuka pamusoro pepfungwa - isu chete, vakadzi, vane godo. Uye ichi chiito chemukomana chiratidzo chokuti baba ndiyo nguva yekutora nzvimbo huru muhukama naye. Uye kurambana hakubvumiri baba vane mutoro. Muhupenyu hwemwanakomana, kubata kwababa kunongoda kukosha, sechinhu chinodiwa kuti uve nehutano hwepfungwa nehuviri uye simba rake romukati semunhu anouya mune ramangwana. Zvakakosha kusimbisa kuti baba vanotora chikamu chikuru mukurera mwana wavo. Kana, mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa, unogona kusangana nakuru vako pano.
Mumwe mukomana ane makore 10-13 ane hanya nemaonero ababa vake. Kunyange kana ukama hwavo hwakaita sehuipi (somuenzaniso, nekuda kwekurambana), asi mune imwe nzvimbo mukatikati memwoyo wake ari kumirira kubvumirwa kwababa vake. Kurumbidzwa kwababa kunopa mwanakomana wake manzwiro ake pachake uye inobatsira pakuziva kuti mukomana ari kuita kuzvirumbidza. Maererano nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, pazera remakore gumi nemakumi maviri nematanhatu, kutsoropodza kupi zvako, kunyanya kubva kuna baba, kana asingararami mumhuri, chero kutaura kwakashata kwakaitwa amai vari mukero yababa vake kunokuvadza mwana kumucheto.
Vabereki vanofanira kuona panguva iyo mwana akagadzirira kusiya nyika yaamai uye kupinda munyika yababa vake, uye kana vakazvipira kune izvi, vachaita hupenyu hwomwana uye iye pachake. Zvino iwe unogona kuderera kakawanda unhu hutsinye, kuchinja mafungiro, kunyengera. Kunyange zvazvo, pane imwe nzvimbo, izvi zvicharamba zvichifanira kutarisana, uye izvi zvose zvinofanira kunge zvakasangana.
Dzimwe nguva mukomana haadi kuti abudise kubva pamubereki. Zvose zvinofamba zvakanaka, mamiriro ezvinhu anoita seanofadza. Asi, sezvazvakatemwa, zvinhu zvakanyanya kuipa. Kune varume vazhinji vane makore makumi mana vane makore makumi mana vane makore makumi mana. Munhu akadaro haagoni kuzvibvisa kubva kuna amai vake, haagoni kuzadzisa chimiro chake chemurume, haagoni kusika mhuri yake, uye anorarama pasi peapiro raamai vake hupenyu hwake hwose. Vakadzi, fungai nezvekuguma kwemwanakomana wenyu, musava vega.
Iye zvino tava kuziva kuti zvinetso zvipi zvingamuka apo paunorera vana. Zvichida zvakakosha kuti uzviyeuke iwe kakawanda pawakanga uchiri kuyaruka, apo iwe unogona kunzwa kutsigirwa kwevanhu vepedyo, pawakanzwa uchinzwa, uye nguva iyo yakanaka apo iwe wakanzwisiswa.