Kutaurirana kusina kukodzera kune chokwadi kune mazwi, kunyanya iyo ndiyo nzira yekuzvibata inoratidzira kusava nechokwadi kwedu mukati. Mushure mezvose, mazwi anogona kunyengedzwa, sezvo kuparidzirwa kuri munzvimbo yekuziva kwedu. Asi mutauro wemutauro unoreva zviratidzo zvechiratidzo chekusaziva. Havana kupa mukutonga kwakakwana kwekuziva uye nokudaro vanozarura interlocutor yedu manzwiro edu echokwadi nechinangwa. Ichi ndicho chikonzero iwe usingafaniri kuderedza kukosha kwekutaura kwemashoko.
Kuti tidzidze zvinyorwa zvemutauro wemuviri, tinofanira kutarisa zvakanyatsonaka pane zvese zvekuita kwedu nezviratidzo zvevamwe, uye kudzidzawo kutonga uye kuzvitsanangura. Izvo ruzivo rwekutanga rwemashoko asinganzwisisiki, ayo anowanzoratidzwa nemanzwiro, achatibatsira mune izvi.
Kuvhura . Zviratidzo zvayo zvinoratidzwa nemaitiro akadaro ekuzaruka se, maoko, mapwende kumusoro, anotungamirirwa kune interlocutor, inogara ichibatanidzwa nechokwadi, kutendeseka uye kujekesa kwezvinangwa; shrugging shoulders; kana kubvisa jekete yako panguva yekukurukurirana. Tarisa vana, vanoratidzira pachena maoko avo pavanozvikudza nezvezvavanoita, uye vanovanza maoko avo kumashure kwavo kana muhomwe dzavo apo vaine mhosva.
Kuongorora. Unogona kuzviratidzira muzviratidzo zvepachimiro: kubva kurongwa uye kurota (kana munhu wacho achinyora musoro wake neruoko rwake) kune tariro yekuwana pfuma pachavo (masimba kubhabha yemapalms). Icho chiwo chiito chekunyatsoongorora - chidimbu chinogara pachigunwe, uye muromo weminwe inotambanudzirwa pamwe chete padama, izvo zvinoreva: "Ngationei zvaunokwanisa." Musoro wakakotama unoreva kutarisa kuhurukuro yekukurukurirana uye mutauriri wepamusoro. Kambomira yekuita chisarudzo chekupedzisira pane imwe nyaya iri kukura chiganda uye kushandura magirazi (kusvina, kushandura, gnaw chibatiso chemufananidzo).
Kuvhiringidzika - kunoratidzwa nehupfupi kupfuurira kwepakati, kuchinamatira kwaari. Takayambuka pachipfuva, tambanudza maoko echitsauko kuedza kuzvidzivirira. Vanoumba rudzi rwechigadziro chinofanira kudzivirira munhu kubva pane zvingave kana kuti ingozi yekufungidzira - ichi chiratidzo chokuti munhu anonzwa asingachengeteki. Chiedza chekutanga chekudzivirirwa chiri kuputika mutsi neruoko kana kugadzirisa maitiro edziro (mukati mevakadzi).
Kuzvidzora kunozviratidza muzviito zvisingatauriki zvine simba guru remuviri, iro rinoratidza chido chekuziva kuwedzera kwemanzwiro uye manzwiro asingadzorwi. Iyo inozviratidza mumakumbo akavharidzirwa kumashure kwemashure, kubhururuka kunokonzera neruoko rumwe rwomukuti kana chipfuva chechimwe, kubatanidza kwezvombo zvehondo kana kumativi etafura. Ichi chinhu chakafanana nehurumende mukufungidzira kwemigumisiro yeongororo dzinokosha kana kumirira pamusuo wechiremba wemazino.
Kutya kunhu hunoenderana nemafambiro evanhu vasingaiti kuvhiringidza kwake nehurukuro yehurukuro, kutumirwa kwake, kana mutauriri wake. Kubva kumunhu akadaro unogona kunzwa kukanganiswa, kufanana nehuro yako, uye kuonawo kuedza kuvhara hurukuro, iyo inoratidzirwa mumutambo nemutambo wenzeve yako (kurira, kupukunyuka) - rudzi rwekuedza kunyatsovhara ruzivo rwemashoko asina kukodzera munzeve yako. Uyewo, kukanganiswa kwepfungwa mukati (kusava nechokwadi, kutya) kunogona kuratidzirwa nekunze kwemimwe yeminwe: mwana anonyora munwe, wechidiki anogunun'una pamisungo, munhu mukuru anotamba nepeni kana peniki.
Kurohwa kunoratidzwa apo munhu anotanga kumira, uyewo kuisa musoro wake nemaoko ake, nekuputika nerutsoka kana peni, achigadzira pamapepa, ane ruzivo rwakajeka rusingabviri panzvimbo.
Kuwedzerwa (kubatsira pamusoro pemudzimai) kunogona kunzwiwa kare nekwakwazisa maoko - munhu anovimba naye anonyatsogwedeza ruoko rwako, achichifambisa nenzira yakasimudza ruoko rwake. Uyewo, hukuru hunoratidzwa muchigaro chisingaoneki "chidimbu", maoko muhomwe apo achitaura, zvichiita kutarisa. Asi munhu asina simba anopa ruoko rwekukwazisa nemichindwe, uye dzimwe nguva kubhadhara pfungwa yekushaya simba, munhu akadaro anogona kutora chiratidzo chinoratidza "maoko kumativi", izvo zvichamuponesa. Kana kuisa maoko ose patafura.
Pamusoro pemanzwiro omunhu anogona zvakare kutaura zvaanoita paanenge akagara, pamwe nekugadzikana paanenge achifamba. Kuyambuka makumbo, kuvanza pasi pechigaro chechigaro chiratidzo chekusachengeteka, sezvinoita kugara pamucheto wechigaro, kubata bhegi pamakumbo ako (rudzi rwekuvhara pakati pako nemumwe munhu.) Kutya uye kushungurudzika kwemukati kunoratidzira kukanganiswa kwepamusoro nemaoko echigaro chechikwama kana chikwama.Kutarisa, Kutaridzika kusingafungidzire kusvibiswa kunoreva kuzvidzora kwakawandisa. Pane kugara kwe "waddling" muchigaro, kuparadzaniswa kana kuiswa pamakumbo omumwe kunoratidza kusaremekedza kumudzimai kana kuti kukura zvakashata.
Izvo zvakanaka ndezvekuti wakasununguka paanenge agere: tora kuve wakasununguka pose, svinudza mapepa ako kumushure, makumbo akadzikira zvishoma kana kuti akabatana pamwe chete, isa maoko ako pamakumbo echigaro kana pamabvi ako, unogona kubatanidza lobes yeminwe yako.
Nokufamba, iwe unogona kuziva munhu ane chivimbo (muviri wakatwasuka, wakamutsira musoro, wakasimudza chin); kufamba-famba (kugogodza zvitsitsinho) kunopa munhu asingaverengi nevamwe; kusvetuka uye nhanho dzekutamba zvinoratidza kusava nehanya uye kufara. Iyo inovhima maitiro, musoro wakavanzwa mumapfudzi, kubhururuka kwetsoka, pane zvinopesana, zvinoratidza kusuruvara nekudzvinyirirwa kwevanhu.
Munhu ane maminetsi mashomanana chete kuti atange kukoshesa kwekutanga, iyo inowanzowedzera kukoshesa pakuumba maonero pamusoro pemudzidzisi asingazivikanwi.
Mhete "mitemo yegoridhe" yekutaurirana kwakanaka:
- Shfekedza maererano nenzvimbo iyo misangano ichaitwa: nhandare haifaniri kupfeka jeans, asi pamisangano yebhizimisi inopfeka nemashure.
- Taura ne interlocutor nemafungiro akanaka uye kunyemwerera kunofadza.
- Pamusoro pebhizimisi maoko - usamanikidza ruoko rwemukati wekutengesa, uye usasimbise. Kufuridzira kunofanira kunge kwakasimba uye kwakagadzirirwa mumwero.
- Gamuchira mamiriro akazaruka: usayambuka maoko kana makumbo, usafukidzira chiso chako.
- Ramba uchitarisana nemumwe wako, asi usapfuura. Panguva yekutaurirana kwebhizimisi, vanhu vanotarisa vatauriri vavo 30-60% yehurukuro yose. Kutarisana kwenguva refu kunogona kukupa pfungwa yokuti haufariri munyaya yehurukuro, asi mu interlocutor pachayo.
"Usasimudza inzwi rako, kunyange paunotya." Uyewo usazvifungira pachako pasi pemhino dzako. Taura zvishoma nezvishoma, zvakajeka kutaura mazwi.
- Bata zviratidzo, kunyanya gesticulation zvinopupurira kutya.
- Usarega mhere-mhere isinganzwisisiki - usatambanudza mhino yako, usakanda, usaputika nekase.
- Chengetedza maitiro ehukama hwehukama hwepedyo. Munhu wose ane pachake mumuganhu weukama hwepedyo. Saka, kana iwe usingazivikanwi nemudzidzisi, usamurega kumushure, usatora maoko ako uye usagara pedyo zvakare.
Nzira yekutaura inokosha zvakare:
- Kana ukaona munhu kwekutanga - taura iwe. Taura zvakadzama, kuitira kuti mutauriri anogona kuyeuka.
- Maererano nemamiriro acho ezvinhu, sarudzawo nzira yokutaura (mutsara wezwi, inzwi, mazwi), kunyange mazwi - shure kwezvose tinoshanduka zvakasiyana-siyana kumba kana panguva yekutaurirana kwebhizimisi.
- Dzivisa mashoko asingatauriki, mazwi echirwere uye kunyemwerera kwe "eee," "zvakanaka," nevamwe.
- Usaisa pfungwa dzako pane iwe pachako, kana uchida kuremekedzwa - dzidza kuteerera mutauriri.
- Taura nevanhu vasingazivikanwe nyaya dzisingatauri (zvinokuvaraidza, mhuka dzemhuka, mamiriro okunze), kuitira kuti usamanikidze kunyarara kunonyadzisa. Hazvidikanwi pamunhu wokutanga kuziva kuti anonzwa sei nezvemuranda wake, waanoshanda naye kubasa, shamwari kana hama.
Paunenge uine hurukuro inokosha iyo yeramangwana inotarisirwa nayo, edza kuyeuka soro nyore yerurimi rwemumuviri uye kushandisa mutauriri kwete chete nemashoko anogutsa uye uchapupu, asiwo anoshandisa nzira dzisingarevi. Zviratidzo, chiso chemaziso, chimiro - ichi ndicho chimbo chako chisingaoneki chekuzadzisa chibereko chaunoda.