Pane pfungwa yokuti munhu wezera chero ripi zvaro anosarudza mudiki, uye mukadzi - ane ruzivo, uye naizvozvo anonyanya kufambidzana naye. Asi maererano nekuongororwa kwakaitwa muUnited States, varume nevakadzi vose vangada zvepabonde nevevaduku vaduku, kana izvi zvisingaiti kukanganisa kwakanyanya kwevamwe.
Asi zvakagara zvichiitika kuti murume mukuru kudarika hafu yepiri kana makore ake. Zera rakasiyana-siyana mukurara kwepabonde harisi nguva dzose rinonzwisiswa, uye rinowanzotongerwa nevamwe. Uye panguva iyo, kunyange Hippocrates yakatanga chirevo che "gerecomia", inoreva hutano hwepabonde hwemurume akakura mumusikana muduku, ane chinogadziriswa pamurume.
Mune zvitendero zvakawanda, kusiyana kwezera rakakura mukurara kwepabonde kunonyatsoonekwa sechinhu chekuvandudza varume. Mune zvakaitika kare, pane zviitiko apo kunyange mapapa achishandisa minwe yavo akatarisa zvepabonde zvevarume nevasikana vaduku, kunyanya mhandara. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, Roma nguva dzose akaunza mhandara kushumira mumisha yevatenzi vakanaka.
MuGirisi yekare, vazhinji vakapfuma matrononi vakatevedzera maonero akafanana. Vakapiwa vakomana vane makore 12 kusvika ku14 vakanga vasati vamboita zvepabonde, zvisingaiti zvepabonde kana zvechani, izvo zvaiwanzoitika panguva imwe muGreece. Zvaitendwa kuti mukomana aigona kushanda se "mushonga wekukwegura" mumazuva gumi ekutanga mushure mokurasikirwa noumhandara hwake kune mukadzi uyo aive chiitiko chake chokutanga chepabonde. Apo mazuva gumi mwana wacho ainge apera, aine zvipo zvakawanda, akasunungurwa kumba. Mhandara idzi dzaikoshesa zvikuru zvokuti vabereki havana kumbozvidza kunyadzisa kupa mukomana kumba kwemukadzikadzi akapfuma kwemazuva gumi.
Kana muEurope mukadzi akanga asingafungi nezvepabonde uye kazhinji anowanzofunga kuti iye anongova rutivi rwemurume, ipapo kumabvazuva, dzidziso yezvokwadi yechitendero inonzi Tao (iyo inoreva kuti "nzira") inodzidzisa kuti misiyano yakakura yepabonde hukama hunogona kuramba huchiri muduku, hunofadza kuchinja hupenyu hupenyu nekuwedzera upenyu. Vatendi veTao vanowanzogara muChina neJapan.
Chiyero cheTaoism kune zvepabonde chisinganzwisisiki: hupenyu hunoita zvepabonde hunokwanisa kukurudzira munhu, uye kusakundikana ndicho chikonzero chekuderera kwehutano hwake. Iyi mhedziso yekare yakadzokororwa zvakare nemishonga yekuEurope, uye ruzivo rwomumwe nomumwe wedu.
Chimwe chepfungwa huru yeTaoism ndihukama hweKubvumbi-May, izvo zvinoreva kubatana kwepabonde kune avo vanobatana vane makore akasiyana-siyana. Uye kusiyana kwechizvarwa ichi kunogona kuva makore makumi mashanu kana kupfuura, mune dao usangotarisa pane zvepabonde kune mumwe munhu ane ruzivo.
Maererano neTaoism, mune vaviri "murume akakura - musikana muduku", murume anoedza kuudza mukadzi zvaanoona pane zvepabonde, uye ane simba rakanaka pamano ake epabonde nevechidiki, kuchengetedza uye kugadzirisa. Mune vaviri "mukadzi akakura - murume wechidiki", mukadzi anodzidzisa mumwe wake unyanzvi hwepabonde, uye iye, nokuda kwenguva refu uye zvepabonde nguva dzose, anogutsikana naye. Nokudaro, musiyano muzera unokwanisa kupa zvinofadza kune vose vari vaviri.
Mamiriro chete ehukama hweMay-Okthoti anofanira kunge ari kufambidzana uye kuzvipira mune zvepabonde. Maererano neTaoism, nekuzvidira, chikwata chevakadzi nevanhurume vanobatana, Jan naYin, iyo inobatsira kune vose vari vaviri. Izvo zvakanyanya musiyano muzera, zvakasimba simba rinoputika, asi panguva imwe chete, kana munhu achigona kurasikirwa nesimba risingazogadziriswa, kana mukadzi asina kukwana zvakakwana, akasiyiwa asina kugutsikana kana kuti anobatanidzwa mukuita zvepabonde zvakanyanyisa. Nokuda kwechikonzero ichi, ukama hwakadaro hwakanga huri hukuru hwehutano hwakakwana, kunyanya kune chikamu chevarume vevanhu.
Nhasi, apo mafungiro ehukama hwehukama huri nyore uye akasununguka, musiyano wevakaroorana panguva yevanhu vashomanana zvinoshamisa uye zvinokonzera kutongerwa. Saka, somuenzaniso, Charlie Chaplin akaroora ane makore gumi nemasere anonzi Une O'Neal ava nemakore 58. Pasinei nezera rezera remakore makumi mana nemasere, vaida kudanana uye vaine vana.
Matambudziko ekusiyana-siyana akasiyana-siyana, apo mudzimai wacho ane makore akawanda kupfuura murume wake, haasi akajairika, uye zvakaoma kutumidza mienzaniso yemichato yakadai pakati pevakadzi vakakurumbira. Asi muupenyu hwedu hwezuva nezuva, munhu anokwanisa kupa mienzaniso yemichato apo mudzimai ane makore akawanda kupfuura yehafu yechipiri. Ini, somuenzaniso, ndine vazive avo vakaroora kwemakore anopfuura 15, uye mudzimai ane makore gumi nemashanu kupfuura murume wake.
Asi kubva pane zvose zviri pamusoro apa, munhu haafaniri kufunga kuti zvakakosha kusimbisa hukama hwepabonde nevanhu vemarudzi akasiyana. Kusiyana kwemakore gumi pakati pevakaroorana kunogona kukanganwa kusvika pazera remakore makumi mashanu, apo nekutanga kwekuguma kwemwedzi, zvichiri kuoneka pachena. Uye zvino zvido zvakasiyana-siyana zvinogona kuva chigumbuso chisingagoneki muhukama hwevakaroorana, nokuti zera rinowanzoitawo zvinodiwa nemunhu. Nokudaro, mhuri yakasimba, zvinodiwa zvevakaroorana umo, kana zvisingaiti zvakakwana, zviri pedyo.
Nokudaro, zviri nani kuvaka mhuri ine murume ane makore akaenzana newe, uye May-October hukama huchagara kune vakasanangurwa. Asi zvakadaro, kana iwe uchida chaizvo munhu - tora njodzi. Ita zvinhu zvose kune zvaunofarira nguva dzose zvienderane uye ugadzire mhuri inofara pasinei nezvose zvaunogona kudzivirira.