Zvinonyatsozivikanwa kuti varume vari kurwira kuroorana kwevanhu. Kutya kurasikirwa nehurumende yavo, vanorumbidza "kusununguka, hukama hwakabudirira hwakagamuchirwa munyika yose." Vakadzi vanonyanya kukunda kudarika chiduku chakanaka mumapasipoti avo. "Ari kuchinjei?" Anopopota achitsamwa. "Ichanyarara kwandiri," anodzokorora, asingakwanisi kutsanangura zvikonzero zvekuda kwake matanho. Mhosva ye intuition. Mukadzi, kunyange kana asina kunyatsozivikanwa nemitemo, anonzwa kunyengedza kwemwoyo wake, achitarisa mumhuri yekusununguka.
Imba yemhuri yakazvarwa muNetherlands muzana remakore rechi16. Vanhu vezvitendero zvakasiyana vaisagona kuroora uye hukama hwakadaro hwakatongerwa simba. Nhasi, pane zvinopesana, kuroorana kusina kubhadhara, kunyange mushure mechato, kunoonekwa sehurumende.
Kumadokero, kuroorwa kwehurumende kwave kuchiitwa kwenguva yakareba. Munguva pfupi yapfuura, ukama hwakadaro hwave hwakakurumbira kwatiri. Vakaroorana vakawanda vanofunga kuti pamberi pehofisi yekuberekwa zvakakosha kugara pamwe chete, kutarisa zvishoma, kuedza kune ramangwana.
Ukama hwakadaro, kune rumwe rutivi, kune zvakawanda zvinobatsira. Rusununguko - mupfungwa nepfungwa, kuwedzerwa kwerudo rwepanguva, mukana wekushanda nyore nyore. Kune rumwe rutivi, kuroorana kwevanhu vomunharaunda kune pache payo pachayo mhepo yakasimba. Uye ivo havana hanya nerudo. Sezvo kuroorana kwakadaro kusingazivikanwi nomutemo, munyaya ye "kurambana", cohabiti haina kodzero dzepamutemo dzekugovana pamwe chete. Somuenzaniso, kana mudzimai wehurumende asingashandi, uye akatungamirira furazi, mushure mokunge aparadzana ne "murume", aigona kunge ari mumugwagwa nyore nyore. Nezvakauya-nezvo uye zvakasara-chirevo chekuroorana kwevanhu. Uye varume vakadaro "kurambana", sekutonga, musatambura. Vanowana mari, pamwe chete pfuma, dzimba, nezvimwe zvakasikwa pavari. Hazvishamisi kuti vari kurwisana kudai rusununguko kubva pamatampu! Mukadzi wacho haasi kunze kwebasa.
Kumadokero, kuroorana kwevanhu vomunharaunda ndeye mutemo wepamutemo. MuUnited States, mukadzi akambova nemamiriro ezvinhu akafanana anogona kukwereta kuda kwekucherechedza kubatana nekuroorana. Sezvo zvave zvichiratidza chokwadi chekugara kwenguva refu, kuonekwa pamwe chete munharaunda, hukama hwepabonde, anowana kodzero yemudzimai ane mutemo. MuDominican Republic, kana vanhu vakagara pamwe chete kwemakore anopfuura mana, vane kodzero yekugovana pamwe chete semudzimai. Uye muFrance, vagari vemo vanogona kugumisa chibvumirano chekubatana kwevanhu, izvo zvinoreva ukama hwepanyika.
Uye zvakadini nesu? Munyaya yekuroorana kwepamutemo, zvose zvakajeka. The Family Code inodzivirira vakaroorana uye, kana pane kurambana, vose vanogamuchira hafu yeimba. Chii chaunofanira kuita munyaya yewanano isina kukodzera? Zvichida, kubvisa chibvumirano chechato?
Ndima 40 yeMhuri Code inoti: "Chibvumirano chekuroorana chibvumirano pakati pevakaroorana vachiroorana, kana nevakaroorana vepamutemo, kuronga hukama hwavo hwepfuma panguva yehupenyu hwekubatana, pamwe nekurambana." Rinoshandurwa mumutauro wevanhu, izvi zvinoreva kuti vakaroorana chete vanogona kupinda muchibvumirano chechato. Kunyangwe kana dhidhiyo isayinwa musati yatochato, inopinda mukumanikidzwa chete panguva yekushamwaridzana kwechitema papasipoti. Vakaroorana vehurumende havana kodzero yekupinda muchato chebato.
Maererano nenhepfenyuro, pfungwa yemutemo unoita kuti hutano hwevanhu hurumende hufambe mumafungiro evatongi vedu. Asi iyo iyo isina kuzadzika, varairi vanoopa zvinotevera.
Kana vanhu vakaroorana vane chimwe chinhu chokugovana muchiitiko chekuparadzana, saka iwe unofanira kutarisira izvi izvi zvisati zvaitika. Zita - chengetedza rondedzero yakazara, kugadzirisa zvinhu zvose, kutenga. Zviri nani kunyora zvivako zvepanyika mugove akagoverana kana kubatana. Muchiitiko ichi, kune mukana wekuzvidza iwe pachako. Avo vasingateereri mazano aya uye mushure mokunge "kurambana" vachiedza kuratidza kuti kodzero dzavo dzeimba dzinogona kuodzwa mwoyo. Hapana chirevo chakadaro mudare reRussia chakanga chisati chakunda, kunyange zvazvo pave nekuedza.
Sezvaunogona kuona, kuonekwa kwevakadzi hakunyengeri. Chikwata chevanhu vehurumende chinokonzerwa nekunyengera kukuru. Uye tamputi mupasipoti inonyanya kuvimbika!
Uye zvino mamwe mazano kune avo vanoda kudzoka kubva kumudzimai wehurumende kuenda kumukadzi wepamutemo. Kutanga, tichaona mikana yekukunda.
Mamiriro acho ekutanga: iwe unogara pamwe chete kwemakore mashoma mana.
Iyi mamiriro acho anobatsira zvikuru kubva pakuona kwevanodzidza nezvepfungwa. Iwe une mukana mukuru kwazvo wekunzwa kufamba kwaMendelssohn. Chokutanga, nokuti rudo rwokutanga ruchiri kurarama, uye nguva yokutanga "yekukuya" iwe wakapfuura zvakanaka, nokudaro uchiratidza kuti iwe unokwanisa zvachose kuva mundima imwe. Inzwa wakasununguka kutanga kugadzirisa mumwe munhu wepachigaro nekuda kwekugadzirisa ukama. Iyi ndiyo nguva yakakodzera - murume anoziva kuti akawana iye oga, akave nechokwadi chokuti kugara pamwe chete kwakanyatsonaka, uye panguva imwe chete haana kurasikirwa nemanzwiro emurudo. Iwe une mukana wose wekuva mudzimai!
Mamiriro echipiri: iwe unorarama makore anopfuura mana uye iwe hauna vana.
Iko panguva ino, maererano nevepfungwa dzepfungwa, kukanganisa kokutanga uye kubvumirana kweumwe neumwe "muchiedza chaicho." Zvinyorwa zviso, maziso anonzi pink anobva pameso uye iwe unoona mudzimai wako mukubwinya kwayo kose. Sezvo mutemo, vakadzi vanonyanya kugamuchira runyararo rugare, vachiri kuda kuwanana. Zvakasiyana nevarume. Pano "nguva" iwe uchave wakaoma zvikuru kuti uite kuti murume wehurumende agadzirise imba. Anogara anogara newe uye ane zvose zvaanoda - mudzimai wake anodikanwa pedyo naye, mararamiro aanoita uye ... ipasipoti yakachena. Parizvino, kukakavadzana kusingaperi kunotanga pamusoro pehurukuro: "Mudiwa, chikonzero ichi chichakupa chii?" Une mikana, asi iwe unofanirwa kupika.
Mamiriro ezvinhu matatu: unorarama kare kare uye une vana.
Muchidimbu, haunoda mazano edu. Ichi ndicho chisarudzo chako chekuziva uye nechokwadi chokuti wakatotenderana nemurume wako kuti "chifukidzo hachipi chinhu." Pano "nguva" mukadzi wacho anozvipupurira nezvebatsiro rekuroorana pasina uye anotowedzera kuparidzira. Uyu ndiwo rudzi rwekudzivirira kushandiswa kwepfungwa. Mukana wekuumba mararamiro ehurumende inenge isipo - nekuda kwekushaiwa kwechido chemaviri maviri.
Iye zvino zvatakasarudza pamatambudziko ekugadzirisa kuroorana, ngatifambei kune mazano anobatsira. Saka, chii chaunofanira kuita kana iwe ukarota pamusoro pevheiri uye yemukati wemuchato, uye murume wako anokuudza nezvemazuva ano ekuroorana kwevanhu vomunharaunda?
Zvichienderana nehupenyu hweakasanangurwa, sarudza nzira yakarurama:
Munhu ane mwoyo munyoro anokwanisa kudururwa nemisodzi, kutaura kwekurota nezvemuchato kana uchi.
Mumwe mukadzi ane pfungwa dzakanaka anogona kuiswa zvose zvakarongeka. Regai averenge nyaya inotevera, somuenzaniso. Ndiudze kuti iwe unoda kunzwa wakachengetedzwa. Varume vanoda kusimudzira kudzivirirwa kwevakadzi vasina simba.
Munhu ane hanya nemafungiro evamwe anogona kutorwa pane izvi - chii chichava hama, shamwari, vashandi pamwe chete vanoti? Nenzira, basa racho rinobudirira kwazvo nevarume vakaroorwa uye ivo vanowanzobhadharwa. Mushure mezvose, kuvapo kwechitema kunoratidza kukwanisa kuva nemhosva kune vamwe. Kupfuura kukakavadzana?
Zvechokwadi, iyo pfuma inosangana nayo munyaya yacho chinhu chakashata, uye munhu anofanira kuva nekunakidza kunoshamisa kuitira kuti asanyara kana achikurukurirana nemurume wake. Asi chaizvoizvo tiri vakadzi! Muudze kuti unomuda zvikuru, kuti unoda kutakura zita rake, kubereka vana vake. Hungu, imwe yenzira dzakakosha dzekuwana murume kuroora kana kuramba kubereka kusvikira muchato waitwa. Saka ndiudze - Handidi kuti vana vangu vasaroora! Pano ini handiri mazuva ano, uye pfungwa. Chero ani zvake munhu akagara anoda vana vakaroora. Kana iwe usingafariri izvozvo, zvakakodzera kufungidzira kuti iwe wakaita sarudzo yakarurama.
Kana mwana wacho atova, zvakaoma zvikuru. Nokuti hauna chaunofanira kuvhara - iwe watopa murume wako zvose zvaunogona. Kunyange zvakadaro, mababa akawanda e "civil" pashure pokuberekwa kwomwana wokutanga anobvumirana nesitampu muparipoti yavo. Chinhu chikuru, zvakare, hachifaniri kupotsa nguva apo baba vachangobva kuberekwa vanobatwa kusvika pakushata. Iwe unogona kutsanangura kuti nzira yemberi yeramangwana yekugamuchirwa kwemwana wako pachako kupenga kwakachena - uye pasi pebhizimisi rino iwe uchawana chidhori chakachiva.
Kana murume wako wehurumende asingarambi kuroora, asi anongokutungamirira nemhino nezvipikirwa zvisina zvazvinobatsira, achibvisa tamputi pane ramangwana risina maturo - uye iyi inyanzvi yevarume - usaora mwoyo. Iwe unogona kuuya kunobatsira hama dzemurume wake. Hongu, hongu, zviri nani kuva noukama hwepedyo nehukama hunouya. Kana iwe uchikwanisa kuronga amai vamwene vako, iva nechokwadi, achaita zvose kumwanakomana wake kuti akurove iwe. Kunyanya, kana iwe ukashanyira izvo iwe unoda chaizvo, asi iwe haugone kubereka vazukuru vasati vaberekwa. Pasi pemhirizhonga yevakadzi vaviri vanodiwa, nhare yekusununguka kwevarume ichawa zvirokwazvo.
Kana iwe usiri mubairo nehama dzako, kana murume wako akamanikidzika, uye asingabvumi kuroorana neimwe nzira, unofanira kuyeuka nezvehuzivi. Hapana chinhu chiri munyika ino chinoitika nechiitiko. Uye kana imba yako isingaiti maitiro, zvichida ndeyekanakisisa? Zvichida fate yakakugadzirira iwe mumwe murume, uye apo uri kurwira tamputi, hafu yako iri kukutsvaka iwe pasi rose? Nenzira, kunyange iwe hausi muzivi, ndinokuraira kuti ugoverenge izvi kuratidza nemurume. Muudze nyaya yemusikana aigara mumhuri, uye aonga Mwari kuti havana kuroorwa, nokuti akambova murudo ... Kune varume, nyaya idzi dzinofanana neammonia. Nokuti pasinei ne "kuroorana pasina" varume vanogara varidzi.
Pakupedzisira - unofarira madzimai ehurumende. Kuti vatarise mumwe nemumwe mukuroorana kwehurumende, hapana chakanyadzisa. Icho chichatosimbisa hukama hwako kana iwe uchiita zvinonzwisisika kubva pakutanga. Usati wabvuma "kurarama pamwechete", tsanangura nguva. Ronga pakutanga, kuti kana zvinhu zvose zvichifamba zvakanaka, iwe ucharoora mumwedzi mitanhatu, somuenzaniso. Muchiitiko ichi, iwe uchava nekadhi yehwamanda muchimiro chezwi revanhu vakatendeseka. Uye usafunga kuti kutaura nezvemuchato kunotyisa varume. Hungu, vanovabata nemuchenjeri, izvi zvakasikwa, asi vachibvumirana kurarama pamwe chete , chero munhu anonzwisisa kuti arikuumba mhuri - zvisinei zvisina kurongwa - saka noushingi kutaura chido chake chekuchinja zita rake mushure mekunge imwe nguva. Nhanho yakanaka!