Kana tichitsvaga zvingaita kuti tibatsirane nevarume, mhando dzinotevera dzevadzidzi dzakasarudzwa zvakasiyana-siyana: murume-shamwari, murume-baba, murume-rudo, mwanakomana-mwanakomana uye marudzi akasiyana-siyana ayo mukadzi anosarudza.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinojekesa zvakajeka kusiyana kwevarume nevakadzi. Vakadzi havanzwisisi hukama hwepabonde sehukama hwepanyama, kazhinji havadi kuchinja vashandi vavo, kazhinji havafungi uye mafungiro avo haatombogadziriswi kupfuura varume. Kune vakadzi, chirevo chekutanga chehukama.
Kune munhu pakusarudza mumwe wako, hukama hwehukama hwepanyama hunonyanya kukosha (hahukoshi kana mhuri iri ukama kana kuti zvepabonde zvisiri zvepabonde), ivo vanonyanya kutendeseka muhukama hwepedyo, pavanenge vachichinja nyore avo vanoita zvepabonde.
Kusarudza mumwe wako ndeyekusika, kusingadzorwiki. Vakadzi vanoona nhamba huru yevarume, vanobva kune mumwe munhu anosarudzwa. Ndinoda kupedza nguva yakawanda naye, kuti ndichengetedze hukama huri kuwedzera zvishoma nezvishoma. Kune mukadzi, mumwe murume anokwanisa kuzadza nzvimbo yake yese, hupenyu hwake hwose.
Iko kutaura uku: "Murume ari kutsvaga mukadzi kubva mumbabvu wake" - chiitiko chakanaka apo vaviri vanowana mumwe nomumwe, uye vakakodzera zvakakwana kune mumwe nomumwe. Apo vanokwanisa kuwana matambudziko makuru nezvinetso pamwechete. Uyu ndiwo mufaro mukuru.
Kuita zvepabonde zvisikwa zvinoshanda pakarepo uye zvakasikwa. Mukadzi anosarudza nguva dzose kwete kwete shamwari chete, kwete munhu akafanana nemafungiro. Anosarudza iye pachake pakutanga wevamwe vanogona kuroorana naye, anodikanwa anozvida iye pachake.
Kusarudza mumwe wako chinhu chinokonzera kushamwaridzana nehukama hwevanhu vasina chokwadi. Sezvo vanhu vasina chokwadi vari kuratidzira ivo pachavo.
Ksenia Ivanova , kunyanya kune nzvimbo