Nzira yekukunda sei vashandi pamwe navo

Vakawanda vanokanganisa vanotenda kuti nehupamhi hwemabasa uye kuremekedzwa kubva kune vamwe, rudo nekunzwira tsitsi hazvidiwi. Asi yakaramba ichitsigirwa nekuita uye kuratidza hupenyu hwehupenyu huno rudo rwevamwe pamwe chete nevatungamiri ndiro injini huru yemabasa ako. Kunyange vashandi pachavo vanoziva kuti pavanenge vachiita hurukuro, vanozotanga kutarisa kana munhu wacho anonzwira tsitsi kana kwete, maitiro aanoita kune vamwe, kuti anofadza sei, uye chete ipapo pane unyanzvi hwake hwehutano uye ruzivo. Saka unokunda sei rudo rwevamwe vako?
Iva neshamwari kune vamwe vako. Usakanganwa kukwazisa vashandi, kunyemwerera, kuva nemwoyo wose, kusvika pazvinenge zvichibvira, vabatsire vashandi pachavo pachavo, usamirira zvikumbiro zvekubatsira. Iva nemagariro, dzidza kugamuchira mafungiro evamwe uye maonero. Vanhu havadi avo vasingabvumirani nemafungiro mazhinji. Ita kukwanisa kuteerera uye kugamuchira pfungwa dzevamwe vanhu. Inzwa wakasununguka kuratidzira manzwiro ako, iva nemwoyo wose mukuratidzwa kwavo. Taura nezvemaonero ako akanaka kune vamwe vako, ita mazano akawanda echokwadi, taura pamusoro pekukanganisa kwako munhu aive muzororo kana kurwara. Iva akatendeseka mumashoko ako, maitiro. Vanhu vanonyatsonzwa vachireva nhema uye kunyengedzera, kunyengera kwezvakabatsira ivo pachavo. Uine mafungiro aya, iwe unosemwerera muchiso, asi unyeve shure kwako. Asi usapfuurira, ramba uri wega, usakanganwa pamusoro pemitemo yako uye maonero.

Kana iwe uchida kukunda rudo rwevaunoshanda navo, usapopotedzana nguva dzose. Icho chinhu chimwe chete kuratidza pfungwa yemunhu pane dambudziko rinokakavadzana, uye rimwe racho chido chekuva akarurama pane zvose, uye kukunda mukukakavadzana. Muchiitiko ichi, iwe unorasikirwa nehutano hwekukakavadzana kukuru uye unongorwisana nekutaura.

Usakanganwa kuonga vashandi pamwe navo pamazororo asingakoshi, pamwe nemashoko. Izvi zvinomutsa mafungiro kune avo vamunofara uye vanoita kusemwe. Uye nokuda kwemazororo makuru, kunyanya kana iri itsva yakabatanidzwa iwe, uuye nekiki kana kuti yakagadzirirwa makiki kuti tiite.

Tora chiito. Bvumirana kubatsira vashandi vako kana iwe usati wakabatikana panguva ino. Tora chikamu pakukurukurirana kwemashoko anowanzoshanda, sarudzo dzemamwe matambudziko eboka, ita zvaunogona kuita kugadzirisa ichi kana chinetso.

Kana zvichibvira, shandisa nguva yakasununguka pamwe chete nevamwe, uwane zvinowanzoita zvekupemberera. Zvichida ichange ichinge ichibatanidzwa mu bowling, kana rwendo rwekupera kwevhiki rokubata hove, kana kuti zvichida kudya kwemasikati mubhokisi re sushi neine mudiwa wechiJapane. Tarisa humwe hutano hwekubatana nevamwe vako kwete chete mubasa, asiwo mukuzorora.

Tora mutemo usingaiti uye kune ani zvake usingaregi makuhwa, kwete kuti uite nharo muzvinyengeri, kwete kumira pamberi pezviremera, kuti usakurukura mumwe munhu kubva kune vashandi vake mushure mekumana kwavo, kwete kushora uye kusazvidza. Nokudzivisa izvi, uchazviratidza kuva wakatendeseka uye wakatendeseka. Kana mumwe munhu akaedza kukuudza mashoko akavanzika, zvakavanzika zvake, saka, mushure mekuteerera interlocutor, kukanganwa pamusoro pezvawakanzwa uye usaudza chero mumwe wevamwe vako zvawakapiwa.

Kuti uwane rudo rwevamwe pamwe navo, usaramba kupinda muzviitiko zvekambani nemapoka. Itaiwo chikamu mumararamiro ehupenyu hwesangano renyu.

Nokudaro, kana iwe uchida kubudirira kubudirira pabasa nekusimudzira basa remakore, iwe unongoda kukunda rudo rwevamwe pamwe chete. Inzwa mafungiro evanhu vose, maitiro ayo uye ave chikamu cheizvi pamwe chete. Uye yeuka huchenjeri hwepasi: ita kune vanhu sezvaunoda ivo kuti vaite kwauri.