Ko hukama hunochinja sei mushure mekusangana pabonde neshamwari?
Pamwechete. Murume wechidiki, wawakambosangana naye, anokuita iwe nezvose zvinowanikwa. Anoteerera munhu wako uye zvishuwo zvako, nokungwarira, kufadza kwaari. Unhu hwake hwakakwana hunoita kuti iwe ufunge kuti murume uyu anofanira kuva newe. Asi, zvakakodzera kuzvirega kumutumbi wako, kuita zvepabonde naye, kuti mutungamiri wako chaiye anonyangarika sei. Inoramba ichinzwa kuti zvichida nyaya yose yawakarota pamusoro, kana une dambudziko.
Wakambosangana nevarume vakadaro here? Vane kunyange nezita - pikapery. Chimwe chinhu chehupenyu hwavo ndechokuzadzikisa nzvimbo yemukadzi anofarira. Uye, pakarepo paanowana zvaanoda - zvepabonde - haana chaanoita newe pedyo newe. Uye hazvisi pamusoro pako zvachose. Iwe unogona kuva mukadzi akakodzera chaizvo uyo munhu wese anorota pamusoro, asi iwe haungadzoki zvakare kudzidzisa pikari.
Nzira yekudzivisa sei kukura kwakadaro kwehukama? Uyu mubvunzo wakaoma kupindura, sezvo kushivirira kwevanyori-vheti vasina mitsara. Uye iwe, ndinofunga, hausiwo mudzimai wesimbi.
Pfungwa mbiri. Mushure mekuita zvepabonde, murume haafaniri kuenda chero, nenzira imwe, haazoperi kubva paupenyu hwako. Asi, ukama hwaanokupa, iwe hauna hanya. Iwe unosangana chete kana zviri nyore. Misangano yako yakaderedzwa kusvika pakuvhara kushanyira kuresitorendi, uyezve kune zvepabonde. Haadi kukubvumira muhupenyu hwake, hongu, uye zvaunofanira kutaura, haafaniri kufarira iwe. Iwe uri kwaari chete chido chinonaka, icho chinonakidza kuita zvepabonde. Zvinonzwisisika, hakungavi nehurukuro chero ipi zvayo yerudo.
Chii chakamirira ukama uhwu? Kana iwe usati uri masochist, ipapo imwe pfungwa ndeyokumisa ukama uhwu. Asi, kana maonero ako akafanana-iwe, pamwe chete neaanoda chete mumwe wako zvepabonde, zvino izvi zvinosarudzika iwe mose.
Nzira yekuziva sei murume anoda zvepabonde chete, asina hukama hwakasimba? Iva kunyatsoteerera kuti chii uye kuti anotaura sei; kune zvaanoita. Murume asina kukubata iwe seshamwari yehupenyu haazobvumi kupindira kwako kwekwake nzvimbo.
Nzira yechitatu. Pane mutemo - "zvepabonde zvinounza pamwe chete." Mushure mokuita zvepabonde, hukama hwenyu hunova hunoenderana uye hunofadza. Zvingangodaro, hukama hwepedyo, nokuti iwe unokurudzira hukama hwakakomba. Mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, unogona kutanga kufara, nokuti dai iwe wakanga uri pamwe chete uye usina kuita zvepabonde, ingofungidzira kuti ingani yekuvandudza ukama hwako mushure mehukama hwepedyo? Yakapiwa?
Uye zvino, zvakakosha kuti uchengetedze izvo zvaunazvo kare. Uye tanga kushanda pahukama hwako nekuvandudza.
Zvichida, kupindura mubvunzo uyu: "Uhu hukama hunochinja sei mushure mehutano hwepabonde?" - kwete zvese zvakasarudzwa zvakatorwa. Uye zvakakosha kubvunza mubvunzo wakadaro, kupinda muchikamu chitsva chehukama nemurume here? Kana iwe uine chido chokupinda muhukama hwepedyo, zvino murume uyu akakodzera kuvimba kwako uye maitiro.
Urarame nemitemo - "usambozvidemba zvaunoita". Upenyu, kune mumwe nomumwe wedu, ndeye. Usazvidzivirira iwe, mudiwa wako, nguva isingakanganwiki uye inofadza, kunyange kana iri kurara kune humwe husiku.
Uye kana mushure mehutano hwepabonde hwachinja kuti huve hwakaipisisa, usazvipa mhosva yekusatenda uye upenzi. Tora uye uedze mune ramangwana, zvichida usaita zviratidzo zvakadaro.
Upenyu hwaisazoita sehupamhi hwakanaka, kana, dzimwe nguva pane dzimwe nguva, hatizofaniri kuchema uye kusuruvara.