Hongu, ndizvo! Mwana wacho anofanira kuva asina mhosva! Vana vakadaro chete vanorarama upenyu hwakakwana. Izvo chete kubva kwavari zvinokura zvakajeka, hupenyu hwekusika.
Ongororazve mazita evanhu vakawanda: hakuna mumwe wavo muhuduku akanga asiri mwana akanaka. Charles Darwin, somuenzaniso, uyo aive nechido choga chokupfura, achikakavara nembwa uye kubata rats, akafanotaura kuti aizonyadzisa mhuri yake. Helmholtz, uyo asina kuratidza kushingaira kwezvidzidzo zvake, vadzidzisi vakabvuma vachitoita mapofu. Newton aiva nemashoko anosemesa pafizikiki uye masvomhu. Vakawanda veavo avo vakazouya kusvika kumatenga ekubwinya nekuzivikanwa kwenyika, muhuduku, vakange vakadzokororazve: Gogol naGoncharov, Dostoevsky naBunin, Chekhov naEhrenburg ... Zvinoreva kuti magenius aisagona kurarama dzimwe nguva nechikoro chekudzidzira, akanga asinganetseki, aisagona kuisa pfungwa pane izvo zvakakosha uye zvakatsamwisa vabereki vavo.
Chii chinonzi kusateerera kwevana?
Saka chii chisina kuteerera kwevana, nekuda kwekuti chizvarwa chitsva chevabereki chinotambura uye chii chinosimbiswa nezvizvarwa zvose zvitsva zvevana? Kubva pakuona kwevabereki, kusateerera chimwe chinhu chinovhiringidza vanhu vakuru muvana. Uye zvinenge zvose zvinondinetsa! "Usataura nemakumbo ako!" - uye anotaura. Saka hazvina maturo. "Usashungurudza baba vako nemibvunzo yako yeupenzi!" - uye anonamatira. "Asingadi!" Akavhuna girazi - "Nelukh! Ivo vakakuudza iwe: usatendeuka! "Akawira ndokuputsa bvi -" Asina kumira! Saizvozvowo kutaura kwauri: usamhanyira! "Zvakafanana zvakaitika kune dzimwe nguva nevanenge vabereki vose. Iwe unotarisa mwana anonyangadza mumashure uye iwe unofunga nekutya: "Zvichagara zvakadaro sei ...?"
Tingava sei?
Hongu, zvicharamba zvakadaro. Uye zvakatoipisisa! Kana iwe uchiramba uchiverenga kubva iwe pachako. Kana iwe usingashanduri pfungwa dzako pamusoro pekusateerera kwevana.Kakawanzo dambudziko iri rinofungidzirwa kubva panzvimbo yevabereki, ndiko kuti, maitiro ekubata nayo mwana asina maturo, kuti angazviita sei, kuti hupenyu hwevabereki huve hwakanyarara kana kuti hudzivirire.
Mune bhuku rakakurumbira zvikuru rakapiwa dambudziko iri (Dotson's "Naughty Child" Dhodson), kugamuchirwa kwechirango chevana chinokurukurwa. A recipe inopiwa (zvakanyanya zvakanyanya!), Kuita sei mwana asina maturo kurwadzisa kunorwadza, asi achiri asina kuremara. Uye ini ndinoda kutaura kuti: "Kufambira mberi kwakadini!" Chiremba (!) Anopa ruzivo rwekurova kusingabatsiri kwevana ... Uye vabereki vakawanda iye zvino vari kushingaira kutsvaga bhuku iri: "Zvinoreva kuti unogona kurova vana! Uye kurova kunobatsira zvikuru! Uye kusvika pane imwe nguva mwana wacho haagumburwi zvachose. "
Zvino nei vachichema zvakanyanya, kana zvichivabatsira uye kwete zvinogumbura? ..
Hungu, iwe unogona kuchengeta mwana wacho mune zvakasungwa, iwe unogona kumudzidzisa nzira yekufamba netambo nekurohwa, kuroka makumbo ake uye kubvunza mibvunzo yeupenzi. Asi ... rimwe zuva mwana akwegura achayeuka zvose izvi. Saka, hapana matanho akaoma anogumisa dambudziko rekusateerera. Anongofamba chete. Uye munguva yemberi iri pedyo - munguva yekuchinja. Kunyangwe ... ipapo iwe unogona zvechokwadi kukanda zvose pasi kuchikoro, kusvika kune rimwe gedhi, kune vadikamwi vakaipa, kune terevhizheni yakaipa ... Zvakanaka, zvakadini kana iwe usingaiti chinetso ichi uye edza kuzvigadzirisa pasina nguva uye usina kushandisa mazano e "mukuru" Dr. Dobson?
Ichokwadi, zvakanaka kana mwana achiziva zvaanoda uye zvisingaiti. Anotiudza izvo zvakanaka, zvakaipa, zvinobatsira, uye zvinokuvadza.
Mwana mupenyu kana chido?
Hungu, vabereki vakaneta, vanotambudzwa nematambudziko eupenyu, ndinoda kuti vana vavo vafare.
Ndinoda kuvaona vakachena, nepamatama ose, kuitira kuti vana vane chido vadye muffin yavo uye vachitamba vakanyarara mukona yavo. Uye usava nehanya. Uye havana kuita chero ruzha. Uyewo haana kukuvadza. Uyewo yaizouya pamba yekutanga. Uye vaizobvisa matoyi. Uye munguva yekuvata. Uye vaizounza mashanu kubva kuchikoro. Uye ivo vaizobvisa tsvina vanogona ... Nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero vanhu vakawanda vakuru vanotenda kuti vana VANOFANIRA vave saizvozvo! Inofanirwa nokuti vabereki vanoda kudaro, nokuti vakanyarara, vakagadzikana. Mushure mezvose, vabereki vakaunza vana vavo munyika, vakavapa uye vakanwa, uye vana, zvakare, VANOFANIRA kuvabhadhara nokuda kwezvikomborero izvi. Kubhadhara nokuteerera, kureva, kuregererwa kweanoda. Kwete, kwete.
Asi kwakanga kusina kuberekwa mwana aizoda kuteerera, uyo anoda kumira shure kwezvidzidzo pane kutamba; uyo mushure mechikwata aizova nesimba rekuchenesa matoyi; ndiani aizouya achibva mumugwagwa; uyo aisazoda kubvisa baba vangu kubva paTV, uye amai vangu kubva patefoni; uyo angada kuvhara mufuti weMugovera wega wega, uye kubvisa ibhasi rinosvibisa manheru oga oga.
Kubva pakuona kwemwana
Ngatitarise kusateerera kwevana kubva panzvimbo yavo. Uye zvinotarisa kuti mune vazhinji "zvisingadikanwi" zvevana hapana chirwere chisina kunaka. Hungu, zvakaoma kuti varege kutaura netsoka dzavo, nokuti simba rinovarova nekiyi. Hongu, mutambo wacho unofadza kupfuura zvidzidzo (iwe unofunga zvakananga here?). Hongu, mushure memutambo ivo vakaneta zvikuru, sewe iwe mushure mebasa, nokuti mutambo kwavari ndewebasa rimwe chete. Saka kubvisa matoyi evana hazviiti zvachose ...
Asi kana pane kutyora nekututira mukusateerera, tichabatsira mwana kuti atsungirire nyaya iyi yakaoma, iye achationga uye pane imwe nguva achapindura pane zvatinokumbira uye achatibatsira. Izvo chete nenzira iyi (uye kwete pamirairo) iyo inodzidza kunzwira tsitsi uye kubatsira. Muudze kuti: "Paunenge uine nguva, ndapota ita izvozvo," achazviita. Kana kuti bvunza: "Kana iwe usinganeta, ndibatsire ini, uve shamwari" - uye achakurumidza kukubatsira. Chinhu chikuru ndechokukumbira ushamwari, nounyoro, hwevanhu. Mushure mezvose, mwana haasi robho kana musoja, asi munhu mupenyu. Same sezvatinoita newe. Munhu mupenyu ane zvaanofarira, unhu hwake uye hutano, utera hwake uye, kana iwe uchida, zvisingaiti. Hongu, izvi zvinoshamisa kuvabereki vakawanda! Uye zvinhu zvose izvi zvinotanga kuonekwa kare kare, kunyange kubva pakuberekwa. Imwe inoputira nomufaro usiku hwose uye inotungamirira vabereki kuneta, imwe inoseka paanenge akadhakwa mubhati, yechitatu yebs sobs paanenge abviswa mumvura, uye uyu anonwisa mukaka kunze kweS Strauss waltz ... Hongu, ivo vose vane hupenyu hwakanaka uye hwakasiyana zvikuru.
Mwana wacho anogara ari akarurama
Asi mwana chete ndiye achataura, kunge achangodaro mazwi ake aanofarira achava "ini handidi!" Uye "handidi!". Kubvira panguva iyoyo zvichienda mberi, hupenyu mumhuri dzakawanda hunoshanduka kuva hondo chaiye. Mukurwisana kwakasiyana ... Nokuti amai vanogona kukamanikidza mwana kuti ave mhirizhonga inonyangadza, uye haagoni kuita zvakafanana naamai vake vaanoda. Nokuti baba vanogona kukanganisa mwana anotsamwisa mumoyo make, asi iyo, mwana, haagoni kuita zvakafanana nababa ... Saka mwana muduku angadzivisa sei simba revakuru? Ndizvo chete zvandinoshushikana "HANDIFUNI!" Uye "HANDICHI!" Kunyange kana ari iye. Uye isu tinofanira kufara!
Mushure mezvose, kusateerera uku kuratidzwa kwehupenyu hunozviziva. Munhu ane pfungwa uye haatyi kuzviratidza. Kunyangwe kana munhu uyu ari nemakore maviri chete uye iye achangobuda kunze. Uyu munhu anozviziva, izvi zvinoremekedzwa munhu anotaura maonero ake zvinonzwisisika pane imwe nguva. Hongu, kusateerera hakuna chakaipa, sevabereki vakawanda vanotenda. Ichokwadi, zvakanaka kana mwana achiziva zvaanoda uye zvisingaiti. Anotiudza izvo zvakanaka, zvakaipa, zvinobatsira, uye zvinokuvadza.
Kuberekera mwoyo, vabereki vanogona kuzvireurura ivo pachavo kuti munenge mamiriro ezvinhu ose mwana ari kururama! Kusateerera kwake kuratidzwa kwevanhu vasina hanya.
Hungu, anoramba kudya, nokuti haasi nzara. Haadi kuda kupfeka, nokuti haasi kutonhora. Hungu, anopandukira kumuisa pamubhedha, nokuti haasi kuneta asi haadi kurara. Saka nei isu isu, vabereki, tichiomerera pachedu? Sei uchidzivisa hupenyu hwemwana hwemufaro uye zvinoreva? Ngatipei mukana wekunzwa nzara, kudengenyeka pasi pemvura, kuti tifukidzwe nejecha uye ivhu, kuti tishandise uye titevedze zvakakwana, kuitira kuti mushure mekunge apedze kunhuhwira kwechingwa chitsvuku nechingwa uye agone kurara zvakanaka.
Nokusateerera kwake kusindimara mwana anotambudzika nokuda kwechinangwa choupenyu. Uye mwana akadaro akafanirwa nekuremekedzwa uye kunyanya kukudzwa, uye kwete kunyanya kunetseka, kwete kutema uye kuputika, sezvinowanzoitika, njodzi, inoitika ... Zvakaipa uye zvinotarisa kutarisa mwana semunhu ari pasi, iyo inofanira kunge yakaderedzwa uye kudzidzisa! Iwe unoda here kuti aifanira "kudzvinya kunze muranda nehokwe"? Asi mumhuri iyo mwana ari kudzidziswa slavish psychology. Chokutanga pane zvose mumhuri, nokuti mhuri inoita munhu wacho, kwete chechikoro chechikoro, chikoro, etc. Chikoro chechikoro, chikoro chiongorori munhu wacho: chii chakakosha?
Kusateerera hakuna mbiriso iyo unhu hunobuda
Uye zviri nani mbiriso, yakasimbiswa mbiriso, iyo inowedzera maruva uye kukakavara mumhuri. Asi kana tichida kuti mwana wedu akure kuva munhu anoshingaira, munhu akasika, hatizouyi kuzadza yevirusi iyi nemvura inotonhora yezvinyorwa uye kurangwa. Hungu, nemwana anoteerera anonyarara, asi asina kuchena. Nevasingateereri, asi vanofarira. Iwe usina maturo usaneta!
Ngatitarisei mwana semuumbi akaenzana wehupenyu hwedu. Musaputsa kuda kwake, asi farai nekuratidzwa kwayo. Usazvidzivirira kune rusununguko, asi rukurudzire. Usafara pamusoro pokukundikana kwake, usanyadzisa, asi kurudzira. Ngatitorei ruremekedzo rwekutanga kumwana wenyu, zvisinei zviduku zvingadaro. Bvumirana nemwana, uone kubwinya kwake, zvipa kwaari - hazvisi kunyadzisa uye kwete kunyara. Izvi zvakajairika, ndezvevanhu, uye zvinongotiswededza pedyo nevana vedu. Uye zvino zvakaipa "ah, imi, vasingateereri!" Tichasiya lexicon yedu, uye mukudzoka ichauya inoremekedza: "Zvakanaka, ngaive nzira yenyu, mwana."