Yeuka nhoroondo yePikling pamusoro penzou yekare? Akatambudza hama dzakawanda - nemhou, uye hegemonic, nevamwe vose - nemibvunzo yake isingagumi iyo yairamba ichipa mubayiro nemakutu. Asi iyi haisi mugumo: nzou yakarohwa asi isingasviki yakaenda kune ingwe - kuti ione kuti chii chaakanga achidya chishamiso.Akakwanisa kusava chikafu ichi, uye kubva muchirangaridzo chehondo pamwe nenguruve iyo yakasara yakasiyiwa trunk ... vabereki vazhinji, ndinofunga , vakazvibata pachavo nechido chisingadikanwi chekuti vamwe vavo vavhare ivo "slob". Asi isu tichiri vanhu vakangwara zvikuru kupfuura ma heroes echiPolling tales. Isu hatisi kushandisa chirango chemuviri kune "varoyi", kunyange kana vakatizadza nemazana emibvunzo kubva mangwanani kusvikira usiku, pakati pezvo zvinotinetsa zvakanyanya, izvo zvinoshungurudza chero munhu ...
Chiuru chezana "Nei?"
Chinhu chikuru - kufema zvikuru, usanetseka uye kutora zvishoma kuti mwana wako nenzira iyi haasi yakasiyana zvachose. Iyo yakangokura kusvika kune imwe nguva inonakidza uye isingakanganwiki - "yezera rekuti nei". Mumakore 3-5, mibvunzo yakasiyana-siyana, kusanganisira yakadaro inonyangadza, iri kudururira kubva kune munhu wose, sebhagi rakasviba, uye izvi zvakasikwa. Kune vana avo panguva ino vanobvunza mibvunzo ye 400-500 pazuva. Hazvishamisi kuti, mukuderera uku kunonetsa kunewo "kusanzwisisika". Vana vauya kunyika iyo vasiri kunzwisisa zvakawanda, uye ndiani, kunze kwako, achatsanangura kuti zvinhu zvose zvakarongwa sei pano? Kubvunza mibvunzo, mwana wacho anonyanya kufunga nezvekuumba mufananidzo wake wenyika. Mariri hapana chakakosha uye chechipiri-chinoshungurudza zvose. Uyezve, kuwedzerwa kuda kuziva uye chido pakati pevana, chido chekunamatira mhino dzako kwose kwose zvinogona kuva chimwe chezviratidzo zvekusika zvipo. Saka zvakanaka chaizvo kana mwana achibvunza mibvunzo; Zvakaipa kana asingaiti. Saka, mwana anononoka pakukura kwepfungwa akadzoka uye ane mibvunzo "Sei?". Pano munyaya iyi zvakakosha kunzwisisa zvakadzama zvikonzero uye kunyange, zvichida, nekubatsirwa kwechiremba wepfungwa kana chiremba. Saka, usambozvidza pochemchku yako, kunyange kana kuda kwake ruzivo kuchiita sewe kunyanyisa, uye mibvunzo - zvisina kunaka. Uye zvechokwadi, usaseka kwavari - nokuti kuseka kwako kunogona kamwechete uye kwenguva dzose kukanganisa chido chekubvunza chero mibvunzo kubva kwaari. Chero mamiriro ezvinhu, iwe. Funga, nokuti hatisi kushamiswa uye kunyange kugumburwa nemibvunzo yevana seyi: "Sei kunaya?", "Sei ndaikamera hump?" Kana kuti "Sei ndichifamba muhomwe uye kati - asina shangu?". Iyi mibvunzo nemamwe vana vakawanda vanhu vanowanzopindura nekudzikama uye zvakadzama, pasina kuviga chero chinhu. Asi mwana uyu mwana asina chaanopomerwa uye akajeka. Kwaari, hapana zvidzidzo zvinogamuchirwa munharaunda yevanhu vakuru. Nokudaro, hatifaniri kuparadzanisa nyaya dzinobva mazviri, kuvashandura maererano nemaonero edu: mubvunzo uyu unogona kupindurwa, asi izvi hazvigone kuitwa, zvakare-kare kana zvekare - rudzi rwusina maturo chii? Yeuka: hapana chikonzero chinonyadzisa kana mibvunzo yevana mapenzi, kune chinhu chisina kunaka kana benzi vanoita kwavari kubva kuvanhu vakuru.
- Heano mhinduro dzisina kubudirira dzemibvunzo yakadai yemwana.
"Iwe haunonyara sei kubvunza chinhu chakadai!"
Kuratidza kusafara kwako nekutsamwa kwako, iwe unomutsira mwana uye zvakare kumumanikidza kutsvaga mhinduro kubva kune vamwe vanhu. Mukuwedzera, haafaniri kumbonzwa ane mhosva kuti akabvunza izvi kana mubvunzo iwoyo. Haana kuzviita nechinangwa, kwete kukugumbusa iwe, kutyaira mupende. Akangobvunza, nokuti aifarira, uye izvi ndizvo. "Uye zvino Seryozha achauya kumba uye adye kottage cheese ..." Chirevo chekutarisa kune chimwe chinhu hachisi chitsva, iyi ndiyo tsika yezvekushandisa, kunyatsozivikanwa mune zvepfungwa. Mune zvimwe zviitiko izvi zvinogona kushanda, asi kwekanguva. Uchaona - munguva pfupi mwana achange achiri kumubvunza izvi kana kuti mubvunzo wakafanana "usina kunetsa" chero zvakadaro. Pamwe iye anoziva kuti iwe hauna kuda mubvunzo uyu, kuti akabvumira chimwe chinhu chakaipa, uye nei-hazvisi pachena, uye achazonzwa ane mhosva pasina mhosva. Icho chinopera kuti "shanduro yemiseve" yakadaro haisiwo nzira. Mwana wacho anoda ruzivo, uye achaedza zvose kuti awane.
"Iwe uchakura - iwe uchaziva!" Aiwa, kana akanzwa mhinduro yakadaro, mwana haazoregi, apo achakura. Mushure mezvose, mibvunzo yevana vaduku nguva dzose inongororwa. Mwana wacho anoda ruzivo pakarepo, uye anodzidza zvinhu zvose nekukurumidza, asi kwete kubva kwauri, asi kubva kumakomba akawanda. Uye zvavanomuudza ipapo, mumashoko api, iwe uye chirwere chakaipa hachizorevi. Kwese kwese hupenyu hunopisa, uye kwose kwose kune vadzidzisi varo vechidiki - uye muchechi, uye mudivi, uye kunyange mune sandbox. Saka zviri nani kutora basa iri iwe pachako. "Bvunza amai vako (baba, mbuya, sekuru)." Kana uchitaura izvi, iwe unongorambidza mwana wacho. Kuratidzira kusava nehanya uye, zvakare, kubatsira. Simba rako guru rinonyunguduka pamberi pemeso ako. Kwete, sezvo mubvunzo wacho wakanyorerwa iwe, iwe uye iwe chete unofanira kuupindura.
Mimwe mibvunzo inogona kupindurwa zvakanyatsojeka, nechinangwa chikuru chekufungidzira, asi ichiri kuwanika kune pfungwa dzevana. Sezvo iwe uri kutaura kune munhu mukuru, zviri nyore kwazvo. Imwe nzira yekupindura mibvunzo yakadaro ndeyekupa mhinduro "kufunga pamwe chete." Ichi ndicho chimiro chakanakisisa chekuenderera mberi - kumbira mwana zvaanofunga nezvayo. Zvechokwadi ane bharo rake pachake - pano uye kurukura naro. Zvichida mwana achataura chimwe chinhu chakanaka uye chiri pedyo nechokwadi. Asi kunyange kana pfungwa dzake dzichiri kure nezvakanaka, iwe uchapa mukana wekuti kwete kukuteerera iwe, asi kuti uve wako interlocutor, kufungidzira, uye ichi chidzidzo chinokosha. Nguva yemibvunzo isingagumi, kusanganisira "kusanzwisisika", ichabhururuka nokukurumidza. Uye iwe-maererano nemuitiro unowanikwa - hupenyu hwako hwose huchatsvaga mhinduro dzemibvunzo inokosha yemwana wako akwegura, kunyange akamborega kuvabvunza.
Nezvazvo
Pane imwe nyaya "isingaiti" iyo vana vose vanobvunza vabereki vavo. Mubvunzo ndewokuti vanobva kupi. Nzira yakanakisisa iyo yakarongedzwa nemusikana mumwe, mwanasikana wevanozivikanwa mafilologists: "Amai, vanoparidza sei vana?" Uye uyu Sonja ane makore mashanu uye vamwe vana veguta remazuva ano angave asinganzwisisike kuti aise chirevo chekare chechibage, sorkork kana shamba. Zvichida havana kuona sorogiko zvachose, iyo kabichi yaionekwa muchitorosi, uye ndezvipi zvitoro zviripo zvinonzwika zvakanaka kwazvo. Saka izvi zvinosarudzwa hazvina kukodzera. Mhinduro yakakurumbira kupfuura yevanhu vose mubvunzo uyu inoramba iine mutsara wokutanga: "Vana vanoonekwa kubva mudumbu raamai vangu," asi mwana wemazuva ano haasi iyeye kuti anyarare pane izvi. Zvichida, achakumbira zvakare. Uye ipapo hakuna maonero evanhu. Zvakajeka kuti nemwana ane makore matatu munyaya iyi unoda kutaura zvakasiyana pane kuva nemakore mashanu, uye nemusikana-zvakasiyana pane nemukomana. Zvakakosha kupindura mubvunzo uyu nenzira iyo ruzivo rwakagamuchirwa haruvhunduswi nehuwandu hwemhuka, asi chimiro chekunyarara apa hachidikanwi: munyaya iyi mwana achaona kuti vabereki vari kuchengetedza chimwe chinhu chinonyadzisa kubva kwaari, uye izvi, zvakare, zvinogona kukanganiswa nekutambudzika kwepfungwa .
Kufunga Pamwe
Mune rimwe shoko, pano semutambo - "Hungu uye kwete hausi kureva dema nemuchena usatora". Usanyengera, usava noupenzi, uye usatsamwa. Zvose zvakasvika kwauri. Hapana mazano akazara pano, vana vose vakasiyana, uye zvakawanda zvinoenderana nemubereki wako intuition, iyo ichakubvumira kuwana mazwi akakodzera uye mazwi chaiwo muhurukuro nechecheche, kwete kuchinja kune chero mitemo. Chinhu chikuru-kupa mhinduro kune nyaya dzinonetsa, funga nezvehutano hwekuvandudza kwomwana. Izvo zvaasingazvinzwisisi zvakadaro zvinogona kubhururuka mberi kwekuziva kwake. Mukuwedzera, yeuka: chero humwe ruzivo, kusanganisira iyo iyo mwana inogamuchira kubva kwauri, haisi yezvokwadi chete, asiwo zvekuongorora kwavo. Uye munyaya iyi, kuongororwa kwako chete kunokosha, ndiye iye achaita mafungiro emwana kuti ave "anokurumidza" nyaya dzekukurukurirana. Kungotaura, hazvina basa kuti shoko rakataurwa nababamunini muchitoro rinorevei, zvakakosha kuti shoko harina kunaka. Uye imwe hanzvadzi yacho yakakora, nokuti anorwara, iye atova akaoma zvakanyanya, saka ngatimunzwire tsitsi, uye hatingarevi kumunwe.