Zvisinei, hapana dambudziko guru mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Ichokwadi ndechokuti kune nguva dzekukura kwevana, apo dambudziko rehukama pakati pevana nevabereki harinzvengeki. Saka rudzi urwu dambudziko harusi ruremekedzo, rwakajairika, zvinogona kutaurwa kuti zvinotarisirwa kunenge mhuri imwe neimwe.
Nyanzvi dzakasiyana-siyana dzepfungwa dzinopa kusiyana kwakasiyana-siyana kwezvinetso zvevana. Kunyange zvakadaro, vazhinji vavo vanoita matambudziko anotevera ekubudirira kwevana: dambudziko regore rimwe, dambudziko remakore matatu, dambudziko remakore mashanu, dambudziko rekuchikoro uye junior school age (makore 6-7), dambudziko revechiri kuyaruka (12-15 makore) uye dambudziko revechidiki 18-22 makore).
Kubudirira kwedambudziko rimwe nerimwe muhukama pakati pevana nevabereki kune munhu oga munguva, kuitira kuti mazita ezera ave akadaro. Kune vana vari kutarisana nedambudziko remakore matatu mugore rechi2,5. Uye zvinoitika kuti dambudziko revechiri kuyaruka rinoswedera pedyo nezera remakore gumi nemaviri.
Kutaura zvazviri, matambudziko evana ndiwo maonero akadaro mukurudzirwa kwomwana anoratidza kuchinja kune imwe nhanho yekusimudzirwa. Icho chiito chechiitiko chekushandura kwenguva chinoenderana nekubatana kukuru pakati pevana nevabereki. Saka vamwe vana vanoenda kuburikidza nematanho ekutsvaga kwekuvandudzwa nevanoshungurudza uye zvinetso, asi mune vamwe vana zvikamu izvi hazvisi kuonekwa. Dambudziko muukama hahukwanisi kubuda kana vabereki vakatanga kutora kubereka mwana wavo kukura, kana zvishoma vanodzidziswa mumunda wepfungwa dzevana.
Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha icho vabereki vanofanira kuziva pamusoro pezvinetso zvevana kuitira kuti vadzivise kukakavadzana uye matambudziko muhukama ndizvo zvinokonzera matambudziko. Chikonzero chikuru, sezvatakanyora pamusoro apa, ndiko kuchinja kune imwe nhanho yekuvandudza. Mwana wacho atotanga kuchinja kune imwe nzvimbo, asi haasati akura zvakakwana kuti vabereki vamugamuchire mune imwe simba. Nokudaro, kune mhirizhonga yakawanda muhukama hwemwana nevabereki.
Somuenzaniso, pamakore matatu mwana anotanga kunzwa kunzwa kwekusununguka kwekutanga. Anoda kuonekwa pamwe nemaonero ake pakusarudza zvipfeko kana zvokudya, paanosarudza nguva yekutamba uye kutenga zvidhori muchitoro. Mutsara unoti: "Ini ndoga" - unova unowanzova mumashoko omwana. Vabereki vakawanda vanoita sevasina hanya kudai vakadaro vachiri mwana muduku, uye vanopesana nechinangwa chitsva chemucheche. Somugumisiro, vanogamuchira nguva refu, vanoramba kuenda kunze, kupfeka kana kudya. Kutaura kwakadaro kwakanyanya semasikirwo nemafungiro asina kufanira zvachose kunyange kune matambudziko, saka vabereki vanofanira kudzidza kuti vangaita sei zvakanaka kune kuchinja muupenyu hwemwana.
Vabereki vanouya kuzobatsirwa mazano mazhinji uye mazano evanodzidza nezvepfungwa. Ngatitii vane makore matatu-vekare vanoda kuzvipfekedza, asi haazive kuti sei. Vakawanda vanobatsira rutsva rwemashoko kana zvikumbiro zvinogadzirwa pamwe chete nemucheche, uye pane iyo yose chirongwa chekupfeka chinotorwa. Chii chinoiswa ipapo - zvinhu zvakaswededzwa zvekupfeka zvakabatana nemiseve, mwana anotarisa mifananidzo iyi uye izvi zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kwazvo kuzvishongedza iwe pachako. Mufananidzo uyu unogona kuiswa musuo kana muimba yekurara uye mwana anogona kuzvitsvakira. Izvo zvinoenda kune zvokudya. Kunyange kana mwana asingazivi kuti adye sei, asi anoda kuzviita iye oga, zvinokurudzirwa kuva nemoyo murefu uye kumubatsira nemazano kana mienzaniso yega. Nzira yekugadzira mazai eiri, kuchengetwa kwekapu, kuitira kuti muto usashandise, - izvo zvose mwana wacho anofanira kudzidziswa kuti arege kuparadza nharo dzake.
Nzira yakanakisisa yekupindura kune matambudziko akadaro kushivirira uye zvakare kushivirira. Ichakupa mubayiro mune ramangwana. Mushure mezvose, dambudziko remakore matatu rinomuka panguva yekushushikana kwomwana kunokosha mukusimudzirwa kwehurumende, basa, kufunga uye chinangwa kune hupenyu. Kana kukakavadzana kwacho kuchidzvinyirirwa, zvino zvinokwanisika kukura munhu asina simba, anoda, asina kutaura, achitaura - "rag". Uye kugadzirisa muzera revanhu vakuru izvi zvisizvo zvisingafadzi zvemunhu uye mufambiro wevanhu zvichave zvakaoma zvikuru.
Kana iwe uchifunga nezveshoko guru redambudziko muhukama pakati pevana nevabereki, zviri nyore kuwana "zvakafanana" pakati pekuda uye kukwanisa panguva imwe neimwe yechirwere chemwana. Vechidiki vanenge vatoda kuzvimirira, asi vachiri vasina kukwana zvakakwana uye vanovimba nevabereki vavo mune zvemari. Izvi zvinokonzera matambudziko muhukama nevabereki. Vana vezvikoro zvepachikoro uye vekusekondari vagara vachida kukwanisa kuverenga nokunyora, vanoda kuratidza ruzivo rwechikoro pamba. Zvisinei, kazhinji ivo havasati vava kukwanisa kuzviita, izvo zvinovhiringidza hutsinye uye mafungiro. Chinhu chikuru ndechekushivirira uye "kukwevera" mikana yemwana yezvido zvake zvitsva. Uye ipapo hapana matambudziko achakuvhundutsa iwe!