Uye vanachiremba vanoziva izvi zviri nani kudarika chero ani zvake munhu. Munhu wose anoziva basa guru rezwi muhukama pakati pevanhu, asi kwete munhu wose anonzwisisa kuti sei uye kana munhu angashandisa sei simba rekutaura kwake. Ngatitarise mimwe mienzaniso, apo shoko rine zvarinoreva muupenyu hwedu.
Pfungwa dzisingabvumirwi dzinopesana: mutauro wefaira
Mhuri dzose dzinokakavara, sezvinotaurwa nevepfungwa dzepfungwa. Mhuri dzinofara chete dzinokakavara zvakasimba, uye dzisina kufara - dzinoparadza. Kusiyana kukuru pakati pemakakatanwa anozarura uye kugadzirisa dambudziko, uye kukakavara kunowedzera kukanganisa kwehukama, huri mukukwanisa kusakwanisa kusvika kune pfungwa dzekusagadzikana.
Pfungwa dzisingabvumirwi mukukakavadzana - aya ndiwo mazwi kana mazwi anokwanisa kuisa pfungwa muhukama. Imwe yemuenzaniso unotyisa ndeyemashoko ekupandukira. Kana vakaroorana kana vanoda vanoda kukakavara, uye mune fuse, mumwe wavo anotaura kuti akachinja, zvinogona kuparadza ukama hune hukama hwakanyanya.
Mhedziso yekusagadzikana haisi nguva dzose inodiwa yoga, dzimwe nguva inogona kuva ellipsis. Somuenzaniso, inofungidzirwa kuti pamhuri dzinopesana, pfungwa yekusagadzikana ndeipi mutsara unosvibisa kukudzwa kwevabereki vemumwe wako. Asi zvakasiyana nemashoko ekupandukira, unoda kudana vabereki vako vabereki kakawanda nemashoko asina kunaka kana kuvatopomera chimwe chinhu chakakomba zvisati zvaitwa chisarudzo pamusoro pekuparara.
Idzo pfungwa dzisingabvumirwi mumhuri dzakasiyana dzingasiyana. Imwe nhau pamusoro pokupandukira isingagoni kushungurudzika, dzimwe dzakawanda. Vamwe havaregereri kukwikwidzana nevabereki vavo, vamwe vanogona kurarama mukurwisana kwakadaro kwemakore. Saka kazhinji zvinotora nguva kuti unzwisise chinangwa chekusagadzikana kwemudiwa wako.
Usamboti "usambo"
Chimwe chivimbiso chekugadzirisa kukakavadzana, kudzorera hukama, ndiko kukwanisa kusaita. Mashoko echimiro: "zvose", "nguva dzose", "nokusingaperi", "haambofi", "pasina" inofanira kuiswa kunze kwemashoko ako kana uchida kuchengetedza ukama. Nezvevana, mazwi aya akazara zvachose. Kutaurira mwana chimwe chinhu chakadai: "Unogara uchinonoka" kana "Iwe haunodzidza kutaura Chirungu nenzira inowanzo" - iwe unoronga kuri mukukundikana. Mwana wacho haasati azviremekedza uye haakwanisi kuzviongorora zvakakwana. Haazive kana mai vake vakaneta uye vakagumbuka, kana kuti zvechokwadi iye asina kudzidza uye ane hutungamiri, kuitira kuti zvinhu zvose zvionekwe pamusana pemaonero azvo. Basa remashoko pakurera komwana rakakura, uye munhu haafaniri kushandisa zvisina kunaka simba rababa vake panyaya iyi.
Usafananidza munhu nemumwe munhu kunze kweiye pachake
Nzira inobatsira yekuratidza kusagutsikana kwako ndeyekudzivisa kuitisa uye kuenzanisa. Inoshanda muhukama pakati pevanhu mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu: kumba, kubasa, uye neshamwari, uye nevana, uye nevanodiwa.
Kana mumwe munhu achipa maruva, uye mumwe achiratidza rudo nekufungisisa hutano hwemukadzi kana nemabasa epamba, usazvienzanisa. Izvi hazvisi zvakaipa uye kwete zvakanaka pachedu, zvakaipa kana kuti mavara akanaka maitiro aya tinozvibatanidza. Ungada here kupiwa maruva? Kutakura murume wezvematongerwo enyika ane nhamba yekutengesa, iyo ichave ine chinhu "maruva omukadzi anodiwa." Kana kuti ingozvifananidza iwe pachako: "Paunondipa maruva, iwe unondiitira ini munhu anodikanwa zvikuru panyika." Usamudzidzisa hupenyu uye utaure nyaya mumutauro wekuti "Asi Man'kin Vasya haambokanganwi kupa mudzimai wake maruva."
Nzira yokuratidza kusagutsikana uye kwete kugumbura
Masters mumunda wemabhuku munguva yedu ndeye vanyori veNLP. Neuro-linguistic programming inokutendera kuti udzidze zvakadzama basa rezwi mune hukama pakati pevanhu. Sei vanhu vakapedza NLP zvidzidzo zvakabudirira mukutengesa? Nokuti vakadzidziswa mukukwanisa kudarika nzvimbo dzine dambudziko mukukurukurirana, edza kushamwaridzana, nekukurumidza kuwana pfungwa dzakafanana dzekubatana ne interlocutor.
Saka, muNLP mune nzira dzakawanda dzinofadza dzekutora zvishoma nezvako. Somuenzaniso, kana iwe uchida kukurudzira mumwe munhu kuti achinje, asi haadi kuve mutungamiri uye munhu anodzidzisa vanhu vakuru mupfungwa, iwe unoda kutaura kwakananga.
Imwe nzira yakarongeka, kusiyana nemashoko akataurwa "pahuma," inoita kuti munhu anzwisise chinetso chake uye kutsvaga mhinduro. Dzimwe nguva nenzira ine unyoro zviri nyore kuwana mharidzo yako kudarika zvakananga. Kana pane chirevo chekuraira kuti usanonoka, iwe uchapedza kukurukurirana nemushandi mumutauro wakarongeka, iwe uchazadzisa zvakawanda. Hurukuro inofananidzwa ine mifananidzo yakawanda, kuenzanisa uye dzimwe nzira. Muenzaniso waro kune vashandi vekupedzisira ichange iri: "Unogona kuita zvakasiyana nekubata kunonoka, imwe inoratidzika sechiratidzo chekubatana, vamwe vachaona kunonoka sechiratidzo cheuchenjeri uye kusaremekedza. Ndingada kufara kana iwe, Larisa Mikhailovna, wawana mukana wekuzviga kana wepachena, pfupi kana kuti muchikurukurirana zvakakwana nedambudziko rinomuka pane imwe nguva. "
Nenzira yekutaura kwakasununguka kunogona kuti iwe usapa wako interlocutor chisarudzo - kuzokurukura kana kuti kwete kuzokurukura nyaya inofadza. Iwe unomupa sarudzo yemhando uye nzira dzekukurukurirana, zvichiita kuti ataurirane, uye kwete kumumanikidza kuti aite.
Kunyatsoshandiswa kushandiswa kwemabhuku ekukurukurirana
Iko kune mabasa mashoma muhukama, izvo zvinogona kugadziriswa nekubatsira kweshoko. Funga muchidimbu muenzaniso wemukadzi uye wemurume.
Mukadzi ane murume akadzingwa uye asingakwanisi kuwana basa anofanira kukanganwa nokusingaperi nemashoko ekutsoropodza. Mashoko ekutsigirwa, kubvumirwa uye kutenda kune vakatendeka, musipo kwekuedza kumubatsira chaizvoizvo, zvichaunza chibereko chakakurumidza. Hongu, kuva museki haisi nyore. Kunyange zvakadaro mazwi akanaka anotapira mumamiriro ezvinhu ekushaya basa kwevarume anogona kuita zvishamiso.
Varume vanofanira kuyeuka kuti kana mukadzi achikumbira chipo chinodhura - furzu yehuto, motokari kana muchero, uye asina mari yeiyo, anogona ... taura pamusoro. Iyi haisi joke, ndeyechokwadi: kutaura kwakanaka uye kukurukurirana kwenguva yakareba nekendeketsi kana nemwedzi kunokwanisa kwenguva yakati kana kunyange kwenguva yakareba kubvisa mukadzi wezvido zvemhando. Chinhu chikuru ndechekutenda mamuri, uye dzidzai kuziva mutauro wako.