Takava murudo, dzimwe nguva tinorasikirwa nemusoro wedu uye tinoona mudikanwi pasi pejeri rezviratidzo zvedu, zvatinotarisira uye zvido zvedu. Zvinosuruvarisa, kwete vose rudo rweukama hunogona kugara kwemakore uye kuguma nemuchato unofadza. Dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti munhu uyu haasi izvo zvinodiwa, uye zvinokosha kugovana naye kuitira kuti arege kupotsa mufaro wake chaiye. Unganzwisisa sei kuti hukama huripo hwakagara hwapera uye inguva yekuparadzanisa nemurume?
1. Nhema dzose. Kana iwe uchigara uchitarisana nechokwadi chokuti wechidiki ari kukunyengera mune chimwe chinhu, saka ichi chikonzero chakakomba chokufunga kana zvakakosha kuenderera mberi naye. Zvechokwadi, kana chinangwa chako chiitiko chisina kunaka uye hukama huri nyore kwenguva pfupi, saka iwe unogona nenzira imwe neimwe kuyananisa nemanyepo emurume, shure kwezvose, zvirokwazvo, iwe hauna chikwereti kune umwe neumwe. Uye kana ukanyatsofunga kuroora, funga iwe kana uchida kugadzira mhuri nemunhu anoramba achinyengedza iwe. Mumhuri yakadaro pane zvisingaiti kuva mhepo yekuvimba.
2. Mhedziso yehutano hwemunhu. Pano mamiriro acho maviri: kana iwe wakagadzirira kukumbira mari kubva kumurume wako weramangwana, kunyange kutengesa zvakakodzera, kana kuti nguva dzose inopesana nekuti iye anoyera kuti mari yakashandiswa sei pamakumbo kana mutsva mutsva, uchigumbusa meso ako kunyange kubva pane zvishoma, ipapo uchiva nemakaro iwe unogona kuva enda. Kana iwe uchida kuti munhu arege kunetseka uye kupa zvipo, iye aizokufarikana iwe, ipapo nemunhu ane makaro angadai ari nani kusiya. Zvisinei, munhu haafaniri kukanganisa makaro akawandisa uye asina kukodzera ane zvinodikanwa zvehupfumi.
3. Kuvhiringidza uye kunyadziswa. Dambudziko iri rakaipisisa kudarika mbiri yapfuura. Kana wechidiki akakwanisa kukushevedza, kutuka kana kunyadzisa chero nzira, ipapo hukama huri kuramba huri naye hahusi. Kana iwe uine "chiuno" uye chifuva hachisi chakaipa, uye kazhinji, chinzvimbo chakanakisisa kwaari ndiye Masha kubva pamusuo unotevera, saka iwe unofanira kumira pazvinonyadzisa ndokumutumira kuti ararame neMeyu iyeye. Uye zviri nani uzviwanire iwe munhu uyo achakukoshesa iwe, kuremekedza uye kuda nzira yauri. Nditende, ini pachava nenguva imwe chete. Kana ukaramba uchingogara nemunhu anonyadzisa uye anokutuka, kuora mwoyo, kuzvidzora nekuzviremekedza zvakasiyana-siyana kuchauya nokukurumidza kwauri uye kubvisa kwazviri hakuzovi nyore.
4. Kuparadza. Apa uye zvachose pasina kusarudzwa. Kana munhu akazvibvumira kuti akurove iwe, pakarepo ngaiunganidza zvinhu zvako uye utize kwaari usina kutarisa. Uye zvakare zvinodikanwa kunyora chirevo kumapurisa kuitira kuti munhu akaputsika anzwisise kuti nhamba iyi haizopfuuri newe. Vakadzi vakawanda vanogara nevarume vavo, avo vanovarova uye vanonyadzisa ivo. Varombo vanokanganwira nekusingaperi zvose izvi antics uye tariro kuti "mangwana ichava nani". Uye hazvizove zviri nani. Kana munhu akarova kamwe chete, iyo yechipiri inorova, saka nzira yakasimba yekuputsa denderedzwa iyi yakaipa ndeyokusiya kamwechete uye kwevose. Iwe haugone kusika mhuri nemunhu akadaro, zvisinei, kana hutano hwepfungwa nehuviri hwako nevana vako remangwana hunokosha kwauri. Nenzira, bhero rinoparadza zvikuru kana munhu ari kuedza kusunga navas yake mukugadzirisa. Zvinokwanisika kuti anogona kukwanisa zvakare. Saka, kana kumusiya, kana, paasati aisa ruoko rwake, kutaura zvakanyanya naye uye kutsanangura kuti kurapa kwakadaro hakubvumirwi.
5. Kutuka. Murume asingatauri jasi, haaiti kuva murume akanaka. Chimwe chikonzero chekunyengedzera chinenge chichikwanisa kuregererwa nemitemo yekupfidza kwakakwana kwevanhu. Kanganwira, asi usakanganwa. Chero zviitiko zvose, hukama hucharasikirwa nemirairi uye iyo yekare yakatendeka haichazovi. Iwe unogona kuedza kuvanunura, kana iwe unogona kungoita chikamu-pano mukadzi wese anosarudza ivo pachavo. Asi kana ukashandura chimiro chekugadzirisa uye "kuenda kune rumwe kuruboshwe" zvave zvave zvakaita kuti murume wako ave akanyarara kwete chimiro chekuzvibata, saka zvechokwadi ndiyo nguva yekuisa mafuta akawanda pamusoro pehukama.
6. Murume ane chirwere chepasitini. Kana munhu ari munhu ane usimbe uye ane slacker, achitarisa zvikonzero zvipi, kuti asashanda uye "kugara pamutsipa wemumwe munhu," saka kusina maturo kuumba mhuri pamwe naye uye kuramba uine hukama. Murume ane tsanangudzo anofanira kugara ari iye anonyanya kutarisira uye "muwani" mumhuri. Kuramba uine hukama nemurume ane chirwere chepachivi, iwe unotambura kuzvibata iwe pachako zvakakwana. Hazvina mhosva kuti rudo rwakasimba harusi sei, pakupedzisira iwe uchazoneta nokugadzirisa kwezvinhu zvakadaro, uye iwe unongonzwa uchineta nokuzvikwidza iwe pachako. Nokudaro, iwe unoda zvakare kudzidzisazve munhu, uchidziridza maari kuzvimirira, kushingaira uye pfungwa yebasa, kana zviri nani kugovera. Pamusoro pemapfudzi ako haafaniri "kuenda" ane hutano, akasimba uye achida kuzviriritira iye nemutongi.
Kana pane chimwe chezvinhu zvakanyorwa pamusoro apa zviratidzo muhukama hwako, saka zvakakosha kufunga zvakanyanya nezvekuparadzanisa. Unzwisise kuti hukama hwave huri hwakaipa uye ndiyo nguva yekusiya jaya rake, chaizvoizvo, rakanyanya nyore. Iwe unongoda kumira kwechinguvana muhupenyu huno uye uchifunga: "Uye ini ndiri kufara here?". Kana iwe usingakwanisi kupindura mubvunzo uyu zvakanaka, saka zvichida kuparadzana ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa.