Munguva yedu, miganhu pakati pezvisikwa zvevarume nevakadzi inopera zvishoma nezvishoma. Saka zvinoratidzika kubva kunze. Asi pakuguma, nhengo imwe neimwe yehutano hwake "inokwevera bhandi pamusoro pake." Kunyanya inoratidzwa muhupenyu huri pamwe. Mudzimai anowana zvakawanda kupfuura murume wake, anobata kuzviremekedza kwake; Mumwe munhu asingabatsiri paimba yake anotsamwiswa nemafungiro ake asina hanya. Unwovished plates, inopera usiku, jekete risina kuiswa muimba yekamuri ... Zvinetso zviduku zvinokonzera kudengenyeka kwenyika yose uye kukakavadzana kukuru. Asi iwe unogona kudzidza kutaura mutauro mumwechete kune vamiriri vemapuraneti akasiyana, iwe unongoda kutevera imwe sarudzo.
Makore makumi maviri
Chimwe chinetso chevakaroorana vakawanda kusanzwisisa uye kuparadzana kubva kune mumwe. Zvinowanzoitika: vechidiki vari pamwe chete, havadi kugovana. Ipapo vanosarudza kugara pamwe chete. Asi mhete-mhete nguva inokurumidza kusvika pakuguma. Zvinorwadza zvikuru kune vazhinji vedu kutama kubva kune rudo tichigovera mabasa mumusha. Munhu mumwe nomumwe ane huwandu hunhu hunozviratidza hupenyu hwezuva nezuva, uye iyo mudzimai wake anodzidza chete paanotanga kugara naye. Mukurwisana nematambudziko ezuva nezuva, nzira yekufambidzana kubva kune mumwe inotanga. Vakadzi vanojaira kupa mhosva vanhu vose: "Haatauri neni, akarega kupa zvipo." Mune mamiriro ekufambidzana muviri, vaviri ndivo vane mhosva. Somugumisiro, vakadzi vari kutora mutoro kumurume wepabonde. Asi varume vari kumirira kutanga, kuratidzwa kworudo. Vakadzi vanogona kukwanisa kuendesa izvi kumapfudzi avo akaoma.
Ndianiko tenzi weimba?
Mumakore achangobva kupfuura, vakadzi vave vava kuda kukurudzira uye vanoedza kuva nehutano hwakakwana nevarume mune zvose. Vakadzi vakanaka vanogona kuonekwa munzvimbo dzinotungamira dzemakambani makuru kwete pasi pevadzimai vezvokudya-triples. Uye mumabhizimisi, vakadzi vanoenda pamwe chete nevarume. Somugumisiro, vamwe vakadzi vakatanga kutora mari mbiri, kana kunyange katatu kupfuura varume vavo. Asi varume havagoni kumira mumakwikwi aya. Somugumisiro: kukanganisa kunokonzerwa nekuti mudzimai ndiye muwani mukuru, uye murume anorara kumashure "pamatunhu". Sei vanhu vasingakwanisi kugamuchira chiitiko ichi uye vachiri kudavira kuti kudzivirira kwevakadzi ndekuberekera vana uye kuchenesa mumba, nekugadzira mhuri yakachena? Mhinduro kumubvunzo ndeyomu genetic level. Mumazuva emapako vanhu, vakadzi vakakwezva kune mukomana uyo, uyo akanga ari mutoro kupfuura vamwe vose: akavhima zviri nani, akabudirira zvikuru pakati pehama dzake. Madzimai ekare, akawana kubudirira, nokuti murume uyu aigona kuva nevana vakanakisisa. Pachizoro chemajini, chakanga chakanyorwa. Saka, varume vemazuva ano vari kuoma kuburikidza nekukwikwidza, kunyanya nevakadzi. Asi kwete maitiro ega chete anokanganisa pfungwa yakakwirira yekukwikwidzana nevarume. Masayendisiti eAmerica akawana kuti ane simba kudarika vakadzi, anokanganisa hukuru uye kubudirira kwemukodzani mubasa. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nehuwandu hwe testosterone mumuviri. Achitenda kwaari, mukomana akawedzera chido chokuva wekutanga mune zvose. Uyezve, mhuri yake inokurudzira pfungwa yemhuri yemurume. Kana baba vacho vaiva muwani, uye amai vanga vari pamba, zvakaoma kuti achinje uye aone zvimwe zvirongwa, nokuti chirongwa chakaiswa muhuduku, anotora sechikonzero.
Nzira yekuzvibata:
- Usaita zvikonzero zvekubudirira kwako.
- Usati iwe unoziva kuti zvakaipa sei kwaari iye zvino, usamunzwira tsitsi: izvi zvicharamba zvichikuvadza manzwiro ake.
- Murumbidze iye nekuda kwekutsigirwa kwake, nokuda kwekudya kwakagadzirwa kwakagadzirwa zvakanaka.
- Kumbira mazano ekuita kuti zvive nani, kugadzirisa zvimwe zvinetso - rega azvinzwe kuti ndiye mukuru.
- Gamuchira zviito zvake pamatambudziko, somuenzaniso, kuti munhu akanaka sei, kuti akarembera shefu, yakasimba zvikuru uye inonzwika, sokunge kana tenzi chaiye akazviita.
- Usamuudza kuti akakundikana uye kupera mumabasa ake. Usazvidza chiremera chake.
Maererano nemigumisiro yekutsvakurudza kweAmerican Psychological Association, zvakawanikwa kuti vakadzi, nekuda kwekushandura kwehupenyu hwavo uye vasina kusimba, kusiyana nemarume, vachitsvaka hutungamiri, vakachengeta mabasa avo munguva dzematambudziko akasiyana-siyana. Kungofanana nevarume, vakabvuma kusuwa uye / kana mubhadharo.
Debriefing
Kuti unzwisise zviri nani, pane imwe nguva unongoda kutaura muine rusununguko, wakagara patafura. Taurira wawakaroorana naye zvose izvo zvawakatora. Regai aite zvakafanana. Uye zvinodikanwa kutaurirana matambudziko pavanenge vari mumwana wavo, uye kwete gore nehafu gare gare, mushure mokunge vawedzera. Uye zvakafanira zvachose kushandura kusimbiswa kubva pamakakatanwa "ndiani ari kukanganisa?" Kuti uwane mhinduro "chii chaunofanira kuita?". Edza kunzwa kuti iwe unofarira chaizvo mumwe nomumwe, uye kuti mumwe nomumwe wenyu ane mazwi aanoda kutaura kune mumwe. Munhu wose muhudzika hwemweya anotarisira kuti mumwe achamunzwisisa, pasinei nehombodo yemabasa asina kunaka uye mazwi aanoita. Hurukuro yakadzikama, usapfuurira kumatunhu akakwirira.
Nzira yekuzvibata:
- Endai zuva. Ipa iyo kune waunofambidzana naye, enda kune cafe, resitorendi, nokuda kwekufamba. Iko unogona kutaura moyo nemoyo uye kugadzirisa matambudziko ako. Taurirana mumwe nomumwe pamusoro pezvaunofarira. Zvichida iwe kana wewawakaroorana naye uchave uchifarira zvekuita zvekuita.
- Tora rwendo rwokubata hove naye, uye rega aende newe kuti adzore zvidzidzo. Zvimwe zvipfeko zvakabatana zvinoungana pamwechete.
- Kazhinji vanonakidzwa pamwechete. Enda kune cinema, bowling kana kirabhu, usakanganwa nezvehupenyu hwemararamiro - kushanyira pamwe chete kumusangano kana kontimba inogona kukanda nyaya inonakidza yekutaura.
- Ipa shamwari yako zvipo, zvinoshamisa. Kana iwe uchida kuti jaya rako rikupe maruva, taurira pamusoro pazvo kana zvinyengeri. Haasi telepath kuti uzive zvauri kuda iye zvino. Uyewo, ipai zvinhu zvishoma zvinonaka kumukomana wenyu. Kana kuti nyora zvinyorwa zvishoma nezvido zvezuva rakanaka. Vanogona kusara muhomwe yejasi rake kana muhomwe.
Pamusoro peMoydodyr
Kubva panguva yakapfuura yakatendwa kuti apo varume vaibatanidzwa mukuvhima, vakadzi vakachengeta imba. Zvinotaridzika kuti nguva dzakashanduka, asi urongwa hwemhuri hahusi. Midzi yedambudziko iri inokura kubva kumhuri. Kana amai vacho vakamanikidza mwana wavo kuti achenese naye, mumhuri yehupenyu hwake haazobvi kusiya mahwendefa asina kushambwa. Kana amai vacho vachigara vachichenesa iye, nokuda kwemurume muhutano hwezvinhu, kuti muimba urongwa hunofanira kutariswa nemukadzi. Kana iwe uchifunga pamusoro pazvo, mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro mukadzi akazvigadzirira chero chinhu, kungoita kuti mumwe wake agare naye. Asi kana iwe uchimanikidza wechidiki kuti aite chimwe chinhu - tenda ini, anozvitora sechido chako chekuvaraira. Ndicho chikonzero anonyararira zvinyararire mirairo yako yose.
Nzira yekuzvibata:
- Chinonyanya kukosha - usamanikidza murume. Mumupe basa rokubatsira kana mubatsiri mune zvekubatana.
- Gara pasi nevarume vechidiki uye pendekera mabasa ose eimba, ndiani uye basa repi rinotangira.
- Isa urongwa hwemabasa emhuri uye uone zvikwereti zvekusateerera kwavo. Yeuka panguva imwe chete yaunoshandisa mitemo yemhuri yose, uye usapedza rusununguko rwemumwe munhu, saka chirango chokuputsa mitemo chichashandiswa kwamuri mune imwecheteyo nenzira imwe chete. Nokudaro, iwe ucharatidza murume wako kuti iwe unotora zvishoma pane iye.
Nzira yekuzvibata:
- Kwenguva yekutanga, zviri nani kuenda kwenguva pfupi, nguva huru yevhiki nehafu.
- Dana jaya rako zuva rega rega ,govera zvaunofunga.
- Kana murume wako aidawo rimwe zuva kuenda kune imwe, usaita zviitiko, zvinonyadzisa uye kubvunzurudzwa.