Zvechokwadi, pazera remakore mashanu nevanomwe, ivo vanoparadzana kubva kumadzimai avo kuburikidza nekushandura kune "chidiki chechikadzi", pamwezve, pakarepo mushure mekurambana havane hutambudzi hwakaoma kana hune simba, havayeuki hupenyu hwemhuri hunofadza, vanonzwa vasina mhosva uye havangatyi ramangwana. Maererano nehuwandu hwemagariro epfungwa, 65% yevarume vanoroora mukati memakore mashanu mushure mekurambana, asi funga kuti imba yekutanga ndiyo yakanakisisa, 15% inoroora pakati pemashanu nemakore gumi, uye 20% vanowana vaviri vanogara zvachose kana kuti vanga mhuri itsva mushure memazana makumi maviri kana kupfuura, uye dzimwe nguva vanogara vari voga.
Zvisinei, mumakore gumi akapfuura, vanachiremba vezvepfungwa, vanachiremba vepfungwa uye vanoita zvepabonde vari kubhadhara zvakanyanya kune izvo varume vanoita mushure mekurambana. Chikonzero ndechekuti vanenge 30% yevarume vanova vatengi vavo, asi pahafu yezviitiko vanotungamirirwa kwavari nevekare vakadzi. Kazhinji varume vanorambana vanodzvinyirirwa uye vanovhiringidzika, vanodhakwa zvinodhaka kana vanodya, havane hanya nebasa uye zvepabonde, kusvibiswa kwenguva refu uye zvimwe zvirwere zvepabonde. Kubudirira kwemasvindi aya anosvika kwehafu nehafu mushure mekurambana (kana kuti "mwedzi wegumi nemanomwe") inotsanangurwa nokuodzwa mwoyo. Ichokwadi chokuti murume mushure mekurambana anomiririra kuti "kunze" achasangana nemukadzi akanaka - akanaka, sexy, mutsa, ane hanya uye muduku. Zvisinei, hovha haisi yakwanisika - kazhinji inosangana nekutsoropodza, kutarisirwa kwakakwana uye kunyange kutendeseka kwepabonde kwevasikana. Somugumisiro, anonyatsoongorora vakadzi, asi izvi zvinotungamirira mukuora mwoyo.
Nenzira itsva, anoongorora hupenyu hwemhuri yapfuura, achiyeuka nguva dzakanakisisa. Panguva ino, varume vazhinji vanoda kudzokera kumhuri, asi mitemo ine utsinye yemunharaunda inodzivisa iyo. Panguva iyi, vanonzwisisa kuti havasi vose vanopiwa voga kuti vararame voga. Vakawanda vavo vanovhiringidzika nemafungiro akawanda anokuvadza, ayo anobatsirwa muupenyu hwemhuri nevakadzi: chido chokunwa kana kudya zvakapfuura, kufara uye kuita zvepabonde. Pa "kuda" hakuna munhu anovhiringidza izvi, asi mutoro wemhuri inopa nzira yekuzvidzivirira iwe pachako. Hapana anomubatsira munguva yakaoma, haamupi mazano uye haamumanikidze. Uye panguva dzepabonde zvepabonde nevanoshamwaridzana kana vanozivana zvikuru simba rezvepfungwa uye remweya rinoshandiswa. Mushure mezvose, kusiyana nemudzimai wake, kumuviri uyo murume wacho atotanga kugadzirisa, mushandirapamwe mutsva anoda nguva yakareba, inogara uye yakawanda zvepabonde.
Uye kuti uchinje kwairi, iwe unoda misangano minomwe kusvika kumanomwe pamwe nechinguva chiduku chekushamwaridzana, iwe unoda kuramba uchikurukura naye, dzimwe nguva umutore kumba, kunyatsocherechedza mamiriro ake. Nokudaro, vanachiremba vezvepfungwa avo vakawana izvo murume anoita mushure mekurambana, vaudza vaimbova madzimai kuti varege kuora mwoyo, uye kuti varege kufunga kuti chisarudzo chomurume chakanaka uye chisingagoneki. Zvechokwadi, usaita zvinopisa, kumhanya kumutevera uye kumbira kudzoka. Zviri nani kuti urambe uine hukama hwehukama nekuchengeta musuo wakazaruka kusvikira murume wacho achibvumira kupfuurira hukama. Maererano nehuwandu mumaguta makuru eRussia, munhu wese wechitatu anofarira kudzokera kumukadzi wake wekare, uye murume wese wechina anodzokera kwaari. Anoda murume akarambana anodawo kushivirira uye asingashamisi kuti iye, kunyange akanzwa zvakanaka naye, zvinongogumira kumisangano miviri kana mitatu pavhiki, pasina kukurumidza kutanga mhuri.
Inofanira kuyeukwa kuti akasiyira mudzimai wake kwete kuti aite hupenyu huri pamwe nevamwe. Anoda rusununguko, kusanganisira mune zvepabonde, saka usamhanyira, kuitira kuti urege kuputsa ukama. Muzvakawanda, mukadzi haafaniri kunge akanganisa kuti murume mushure mechishanu kana makore manomwe kana gumi emuchato wakabudirira anofungidzira chete mudzimai akakodzera. Pane zvakasiyana, mushure mekurambana, achakwanisa kuenderana ne "upenyu hwemazuva akawanda". Nokudaro, vakadzi havafaniri kupedza upenyu hwavo hwose vachimirira, kusundira kubva kune vamwe vadzidzisi vanogona.
Murume akarambana anowanzosangana nemakore maviri kana maviri kana maviri nevakadzi vanoverengeka. Asi kune mukadzi waanotarisira, munhu anofanira kutora zvishoma uye kugamuchira. Masayendisiti anoshevedza nzvimbo mbiri dzakatarisana dzinotorwa nevakadzi mukubata nevarume mushure mekurambana: kune rumwe rutivi - hyperopeak uye imba uye gastronomic service, iri pamiganhu yekugadzirisa; pane imwe - kusava nehanya uye kuregererwa kwekunyanya kutarisirwa kune hukama hwakakomba. Zvose zvingasarudzwa hazvina maturo. Kungofanana nemukadzi anoda kudikanwa, unofanirwa kuzviratidza kune zvakanakisisa muupenyu hwezuva nezuva, uye mune zvepabonde, asi usapfuura.