Kunyange zvakadaro Sigmund Freud, baba ve psychoanalysis, vakanyora kuti pavanosarudza chinhu chepabonde, simba (libido) rinochinja kubva pane zvinhu zvokutanga zve rudo-vabereki-kune mumwe wavo. Uye nekuda kweizvozvo, murume ari kutsvaga shamwari inoratidzika saamai vake, uye musikana ari kutsvaga baba.Chidzidzo chacho chinonakidza, asi 100% chisina kusimbiswa. Mushure mezvose, izwi rokuti "rakafanana" rinonyatsojeka. Ndeipi chaiyo inofanirwa nemumwe wako kufanana naamai-baba uye zvakadini? Kuti uone izvi, zvakakosha kuitisa tsvakurudzo yakaoma yakawanda. Uye vanhu dzimwe nguva vanotarirana uye vanonzwisisa - izvi ndizvo zvaitika. Ngatiedzei kuona kuti vasikana vari kutsvaga chikomba, sei vanoita sarudzo yavo uye kuti vangachengeta sei akasarudzwa? Ngationei mazano makuru echikadzi ekukwezva shamwari. Kuti tiite izvi, tinotendeukira kumunhu anozivikanwa neanofananidza nhau: vasikana vakanga vasina zvose zvakakodzera panguva imwe chete, asi zvakadaro vakagamuchira ringiriko rakanakisisa pamunwe.
Muenzaniso weCinderella.
Munyaya iyi inoratidzirwa kuti zvakakosha sei kumutsa kufarira kwemurume uye kwete kurega kufarira iyi nokukurumidza kugutsikana. Iyi nhau ndeye sayenzi kune vakadzi vaduku avo vatova pamusangano wekutanga vakagadzirira, semunyore, "kutaura zvose uye kuratidza zvinhu zvose". Uye izvi hazvidi nguva dzose!
Iko munhu mukuru - Cinderella - ari murombo, akaiswa mumhirizhonga mumuviri uye mupfungwa. Ndosaka zvakakosha kuti iye aparadze mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma aanogara maari.
Alina akauya kuguta guru kubva kudhorobha duku repurovhinzi. Baba vakanwa, mhuri yakararama muurombo uye inogara ichinetseka. Alina akanzwisisa kuti mukana wega wekushandura hupenyu hwake hwakanga hwakabatana neukama hwakabudirira. Akange asina mai vamwarikadzi, saka aifanira kuzviedza. Alina akadzidza zvakanaka kuchikoro ndokupinda yunivhesiti kune dhipatimendi rehwaro. Kwemakore maviri okudzidza ndaive nechokwadi chokuti vaunodzidza navo havana kukodzera kwaari. Ivo pachavo vanodikanwa nemayero emari, uye Alina akangoita zvigaro. Akararama pane unyanzvi, akashanda chikamu-nguva, akadzidza zvakajeka - uye akatarisa. Mushure mechinguva, akatarisa murume - purofesa wehuponi wepachikoro kubva kune imwe sangano iri pedyo, achida nesayenzi. Akange atova kupfuura makumi matatu, zvichida kwete akanaka, asi Alina haana kunyadziswa. Akadzidza kuti ane "umambo" hwakakwana - imba yezvitatu muMinsk. Usanwa, usasvuta, iwe yoga - kwete kwete mutungamiriri? Zvisinei, kwakapoteredza "mutungamiri" nguva dzose aishamwaridzana nevamwe pamwe nevamwe vadzidzi. Ipapo Alina akasarudza kuvaka nzira yekukwezva. Akadzidza zvakakwana pamusoro pemararamiro ake uye zvinokuvaraidza (bhora, zvematongerwe enyika, nhoroondo - inenge yakatarwa yakagadzirirwa). Zvakazoitika kuti akanga ane nyota, achitya vasikana uye nguva dzose anomhanya kubva kwavari mune sayenzi. Clever Aline weruzivo urwu rwakakwana kuti uite chirongwa chekuita. Akaona pane mazuva ayo "muchinda" aiva nekirasi, paakanga achidya masikati, uye panguva yakakodzera akagara patafura yake. Akanga ari oga, izvo zvakaita kuti basa rive nyore. Kubva mubvunzo weAlina usina mhosva: "Ndapota, iwe hauzonditauri kuti sei zuro" Manchester "?", Vakaramba vachikurukurirana zvematongerwo enyika, uye-uye hupenyu. Maminitsi mashomanana pamberi pe "muchinda" anonwa juisi, Alina akakumbira ruregerero ndokubva atiza. Nguva inotevera paakaiziva, yakanyemwerera ndokumira. Aifadza, achitaura naye kwemaminitsi anoverengeka uye, achitaura nezvebasa rake, zvakare akamhanya. Muchinda akatanga kuratidza kufarira. Mushure memwedzi vakaungana kaviri pavhiki, asi akanga asingazivi chinhu pamusoro pake. Mumazuva iwayo apo aive nemitauro, vakadya pamwechete. Uye zvakare Alina ... akanyangarika kwemwedzi. Akanga aine tsika, uye akangomira pause, saka aida kumuona. Asi ndaitya kuparadza zvose. Kuverenga kwaiva kwakarurama. Mukuwedzera kune zita remakore ake uye masimba, "muchinda" haana chaaiziva. Uye ... akatanga kutarisa musikana. Uye akawana, kunyange zvazvo asina kana shangu dzake kana nhamba dzefoni. Zvadaro zvinhu zvose zvakanga zvisina kufanana nezvakaitika munhau, uye Alina aifanira kushanda zvakaoma musati akaoma, ane nyenyeri uye akare "mutungamiriri" akamupa ruoko, mwoyo uye chibvumirano chekugara muumambo hwemakamuri matatu, asi kare mugore rechishanu iye akaseka ringlet pamunwe werudyi rwake.
Kunyange zvazvo Cinderella isiri chisikwa chechi pedigree, anoziva kumutsa kufarira kwakadzama mumunhu wake. Mumwe munhu anobva "kunyura" kune kunze, mumwe-kune unyanzvi, mumwe munhu-kuti chokwadi chinonzwika uye chinonzwisiswa. Basa reCinderella nderokumira kubva kumhomho, kukurudzira kufarira nemuitiro usina kujairika kana kutaridzika, kuratidzira mutungamiriri wehutano hwakasiyana uye hutiza. Kuti mutungamiriri Mwari arambidze, Mwari haana kumbofungidzira kuti Cinderella anoisa mambure. Zvinhu zvose zvinofanira kutarisa zvachose. Cinderella ndeyekumutsa mutungamiri wemukuru wemuvhimi, uye kana achiita nemitemo, mushure mechinguva mutungamiriri iyeye anotanga kutsvaga musanangurwa wake.
Cinderella's strategy:
1) Tsvaga chinhu chaidiwa.
2) Kuratidzwa kwekusiyana kwake.
3) Kushamiswa kwekufarira.
4) Kuora mwoyo.
5) Mvumo yekuzviwana iwe.
6) Kuroora, (nharo 4 ne5 inogona kudzokororwa kakawanda - chinhu chikuru ndechokuti chibereko chechivako hachibvisi).
Muenzaniso "The Frog Princess".
Nhoroondo inodzidzisa kuvasikana ivavo vasina maitiro akanaka uye akajeka. Yeuka nyaya: vana vaduku vanopedza baba vake, uye akasarudza kuroora ivo. Uye sezvo ivo vanenge vasingafungi kuti ndiani vanoroorana (izvo, chokwadi, nokuda kwekusava nemutemo!), Baba vanopa mumwe nomumwe wavo kusunungura museve. Kwaanowana-pane akasarudzwa. Vakuru vakuru vakapinza museve munharaunda kune vasikana vakakodzera, uye muduku ... zvinonyadzisa kutaura ... Haafaniri kuva psychoanalyst kuti iyananise museve nechiremera chomunhu. Uye zvino zvinonzwisisika zvinorehwa ne "kurova museve": kunyange musati maroorana, musikana anoratidza mikana yake mune zvepabonde-dambudziko rekuratidzira.
Tine frog, tinobatanidza pfungwa dzakadai se "kutonhora", "zvakaipa", "hazvina kufadza." Nokudaro, pasina ruzivo rwakajeka rwekunze kana, kunyanya chaizvo, kuva asina kuipa, frog, zvisinei, inowana nzira yakarurama yokukunda mwanakomana muduku.
Zvisinei, munguva yedu izvi hazvina kukwana: nhamba yekurambana uye kupatsanurana kukura, uye musikana-frog haadi kungobata avo vanorambidzwa, asiwo kumuchengeta. Nokudaro, mushure mekuroora (kana mushure mekutanga kwehupenyu huri pamwe) matatya anoratidza mhando dzematarenda. Mune nhau, frog inoshamiswa nehupamhi hwekuvandudza unyanzvi hwemadzimai hwemadzimai: kukwanisa kugadzira, kugadzirira uye kubvisa huwandu hunobatsira kubva pakuonekwa kwahwo. Tichacherechedza, kuti mune nhau frog yakachenjera inobatsira kutsigira munhu anokosha kupfuura Ivan (murume wake) - baba vake. Mushure mezvose, kana nzvimbo yemunhu yakashamwaridzana nemusanangurwa wake, inosimbisa kuvimba kwemunhu mukururama kwechisarudzo, kusimbisa kuzvidzora kwake, kunotsigira kufarira kwake. Murume anonamatira kune frog yake, nokuti ndeyeiye iye anoedza zvakaoma zvakadaro. Uyezve, apo, maererano nenhau, frog yakanyangarika, Ivan vanokurumidza kuona musiyano pakati pe "hupenyu ne ..." uye "hupenyu husina ...".
Maxim naNastya vakasangana kwemakore anoverengeka. Maxim is anecentric, selfish, beautiful-man beautiful in constant search of himself. Nastya musikana akazvarwa, kwete kunaka. Ane chimiro chinonakidza, vhudzi rakanaka, asi kana zvakadaro haasi kure nemafungiro akanaka. Kunyanya kana iri pedyo neMaxim zvakanaka. Maxim, asinganono, nguva nenguva akaudza Nastya kuti vakanga vasiri murume nemudzimai, nokuti akanga ari munhu akakodzera, uye Nastya-kana isati yamboita, saka zvechokwadi akanga asina kufanana. Nastya akanga atsungirira nemoyo murefu izvi zvose. Akanyatsotarisira Maxim, akamugadzirira kudya, akanzwa nyaya dzake dzose uye haana kumbogumburwa nekunyomba kwake pamusoro pokuonekwa kwake. Asi zvakaitika zvakaitika zvisingafanoonekwi - Max aida kupfura nemiseve yake, uye akatumira museve wake, uye museve uyu wakabhururuka ... ngatitaurire kudaro-muchivanze chemusikana Diana. Uye Maxim Nasta akaudza kuti akasangana nemumwe musikana akanaka, uye akachinja Nastya naye. Akamira. Asi paakanyatsotsanangura kuti vagare pamwechete, Nastya akasiya - akanyarara uye noruremekedzo. Havana kusangana uye havana kudzoka kwemwedzi mitatu. Nokudaro kwenguva yakareba yakagara muhupenyu hushoma hweMaxim neDiana akanaka. Zvakazoitika kuti vekupedzisira capricious, vasingazivikanwi, vakasindimara uye vasina udyire kupfuura Maxim pachake. Mushure memwedzi akazotanga kunzwisisa iyo kunaka mune hukama - kwete chinhu chinonyanya kukosha, uye apo Diana kazhinji akambomukaka-uye kunyange akachenjera. Zvakabva zvaitika kuti Diana akanga ari benzi - mushure mezvose, aigara achinyora, uye akanyatsozivisa Maxim weavo vasina-mogul mufambiro uye kwete mari yebhadharo. Zvechokwadi, akanga asina huchenjeri hwaNastinyh uye kushivirira (haana kumboudza Maxim chechokwadi chisina tsaruriro, kuchenesa makona muhukama), kana unyanzvi hwake hwokugadzira uye unyanzvi hwezvemari. Mushure mekunyomba kukuru, Maxim akaputsika naDhiana uye, pakarepo paakamusiya, akaedza kudzokera kuNastya. Asi ikoko kwaiva. Wastenzi Nastya akati haana kugadzirira kuramba ari hukama muhutano husati hwasakara. Mukuwedzera, akava nemurume akwegura uye asina kunaka (tarisa nyaya - unhu Koschey, iye anokwikwidza). Asi murume uyu anofunga kuti Nastya ave akanaka, anomunyengeterera uye akagadzirira kuroora iye zvino. Naiye, anonzwa rugare nerutendo. Sezvakanyorwa munhau, Maxim aifanira kurwira Nastya. Pashure pezvose, chinhu chimwe chete - kana iwe pachako "frog mubhokisi", imwe - apo yakagurwa nevamwe Koschey. Mukukwikwidza, umo Maxim akabatanidza, akamupa pfungwa yekukosha uye kukosha kwemusikana. Uye shamwari dzose, hama, hama, vabereki, kushandura minwe yavo patemberi pamusoro pezviito zveMaxim, vakaitawo mupiro wavo.
Muzhinji, mushure mokunge zvese zvaitika, pakanga pane kuguma kunofadza. Maxim akakwanisa kudzoka Nastia (iye, zvechokwadi, haana kunyatsopikisa), Nastya - kuzvikumbirira kuremekedza. Pamuchato, Nastya aifadza, sevose vakaroorana, pedyo naye murume akanaka waMwari. Pane chigunwe chako.
Saka, kune frog, kuonekwa hakusi chinhu chinonyanya kukosha. Tarenda yake iri mune imwe.
Nzira yeFrog Princess:
1) Kurwisa nokukurumidza chinhu chakanaka.
2) Kukunda kwenzvimbo yake pedyo nemurume.
3) Kuumbwa kwekuvimba kwevanhu.
4) Kukurira kunzwira tsitsi kwemagariro ake evanhu kuburikidza nekuratidza unhu hwake.
5) Kuora mwoyo mukupindura zviito zvinorwadza kana zvinokanganisa, asi pashure pezvinhu zvitatu.
6) Mufaro wemakwikwi muakasanangurwa neChinhu chaicho kana chechimwe.
7) Mvumo yekukunda iwe semubayiro wakakodzera.
8) Kuroora.
Muenzaniso "Kurara Zvakanaka".
Nhau yacho inonyanya kufadza kune avo vasikana avo, nokuda kwezvikonzero zvipi zvese, "vakashaya" nguva yegoridhe, apo vezera ravo vose vakaroorana, uye zvino vanouya mupfungwa dzavo uye vari kutsvaga muchinda.
Kubva kubva munyaya ino inozivikanwa kuti musikana akazosvika pakukura, akakundwa nechinokera (zvakare chiratidzo, kana isingabudiriri). Shure kwaizvozvo akabatwa nehope. Murume uyo akamuwana aive nemasikirwo aitsvaga, musayendisiti wepanyama, a trailblazer. Aifanira kuputsa mumatope makuru (zvinonzwisisika kwatiri kuti izvi ndezvipi), kuwana mukomana, kumutsvoda nokumumutsa. Asi pakarepo kana mukomana wacho achisimuka, zvose zvaro zvakakomberedza zvinomuka pakarepo. The Prince-Liberator pasi pemaoko kana ruoko ruchena - uye kune wreath! Akatsvoda? Munhu wose akaona! Uye ndivanaani vanosunungura mukunda mukomana makore zana apfuura, vakadzingwa, hapana anoyeuka kunyange, zvinhu zvakasara mazuva mashoma ... Asi iwe pachako kuburikidza nehombodo yakatsva-saka, somurume akakodzera, ndinofanira kuroora!
Marina "akarara" kusvikira asvika makore 27. Ndiko kuti, ndaive ndakarara mumamiriro ezvinhu. Kunyanya chaizvo, kufamba. Ukama humwe mwedzi mitanhatu, imwe mwedzi miviri. Hapana imwe nyanzvi Marinochku yakabatwa. Asi vabereki vangu vakafunga kuti mwanasikana wangu airemekedzwa zvikuru. Dzimwe nguva dzimwe nguva anogara neshamwari dzake, dzimwe nguva anofamba achienda kumabhizimisi. Uye apo mbuya vangu vakasiya pamba-uye kazhinji matambudziko akaparara. Asi apo Marina akapepuka, zvakazoitika kuti iye oga uye hakuna munhu akanga achikurumidza kumuroora. Zvose zvinoratidzika kuva-basa, basa rokukura, imba. Mumwe mukomana akanaka - saka vose vakaroora, apo Marina akafungisisa uye akabata. Uye Marina akabva atanga kukura chirongwa. Achinge asangana na Stepan, murume wechidiki uye ane simba guru rehondo, aifarira kwaari nekunamata kwake, kufadzwa nevakadzi. Uye-zvakadaro-nhau kuti iye musikana akanaka uye ari kumirira iye akasarudzwa. Kwemwedzi inoverengeka, Stepan "akabvarura nepakati." Ndagamuchira mubairo wekuchiva shure kwevose ohov, ahov nemisodzi yeMarina, ndakaenda naye zuva rakatevera kune munyori. Asi neimwe nzira ndakakahadzika ... Kuti zvinhu zvose zvakanga zvakanaka, Marinochka varevi venhema-mushure memavhiki matatu vakati vaizove vabereki vanofara. Kutaura zvazviri, mwana wacho akanga asiri kuona, asi Marina nevabereki vake vakasika nzvimbo yakakodzera. Mumazuva mashoma Stepan akava murume. Uye mushure mechinguva "kwaiva nekuparara kwepamuviri" ... Vana vakave vaonekwa pasina nguva, asi imba yacho yakasimba. Marina iye zvino "akamuka" - zvose semukadzi, uye semukadzi uye amai. Zvinosuruvarisa kuti muchato wakatanga nekunyengera, asi Stepan haazive nezvazvo achifara.
Kurara Kunaka Strategic:
1) Chiitiko chisina kubudirira zvepabonde, icho "chinosunungura" icho, kana kukwana kusakwana kwekukwezva kune mumwe wako nekuda kwekugadzikana kwepanyama kana kwepfungwa.
2) Kuziva nezvekudiwa kwekuwana mukaroorana.
3) "Kuchera" zvazvinofanira kukunda nekukunda. 4) Kubvumira mumwe wake kuti "amuke" (kutsvoda kana "kuvhara nechisimbi" - zvose zvinenge zvakafanana).
5) Kupa chikwata chechikwata chemuponesi wakasiyana-siyana.
6) Kuumba mamiriro ezvinhu anoita kuti muchato uwane "muponesi" nehope yekunaka.
7) Kuroora.
Vatatu vakarondedzera nhau dzinoratidza kuti zvakakosha kusanganiswa kwemazano nemaitiro ekutsvaga, kusarudzwa, kukwezva nekuchengetwa kwemuwani. Pashure pokunge apfuura zvakasiyana-siyana "mafungiro emagariro-ezvepfungwa", uyo anokwanisa kuroorana naye anoratidza kuve akakodzera, kana kuti anozviwana ari mumucheka.
Saka, chii chinokosha kuyeuka musikana asina kusarudza mukomana, asi murume wake?
Kutanga, ita chisarudzo chakanaka kutanga. Iyi ndiyo chikamu chinonyanya kukosha, nokuti zvinoda zvose kuzvinyatsonzwisisa nekuita zvakanaka "kukurumidza kuongororwa" kweunhu hwemumwe wako.
Chechipiri, zivai kuti chero hurongwa huchada simba nesimba, izvo zvinotora zvinotsiviwa nekuwira. Dzimwe nguva hove dzinodonha chigoni pedyo nehombekombe, asi ichi hachisi chikonzero chekuenda kunobata hove zvakare.
Chechitatu, chengetedza uye unzwisise kuti kuwirirana kwezvinhu zvichave zvakanyanya kubudirira. Kana mumwe wako achishuva kunyaradza uye rugare, unofanirwa kuratidzira kukwanisa kwako kuzvisika. Kana zvakakosha kwaari kuti akunde uye kurwisana, ngaaite chikamu mumakwikwi, uko iwe uri mubayiro mukuru. Kana achida
Iva munhu anoponesa - mupe mukana wekuponesa iwe: kubva kune furu, kunyura mumvura yekugeza, mvura ...
Nzira dzinogona kuchinja-tinochinja, zvakare. Mumwe munhu anozviona sejoko, uye akasanangurwa anoona Cinderella mairi. Ipapo iwe unofema kufema uye yeuka kuti, saShakespeare akanyora, "nyika yose inzvimbo yemitambo" ... Uye tamba chimwe chinhu chakakosha kumuona wako mukuru.
PS Zvose vyshenapisannoe haibvumiri musikana nemudzimai wese zvinodiwa kuti vashande pachavo voedza zvishoma kushandisa shanduro muupenyu hwemhuri yavo. Ingoda munhu waunonyanya kuoma kuwana uye kukunda. Asi haafaniri kuziva nezvazvo. Regai afunge kuti akakusarudza uye akakunda. Nokuti iye murume, uye kwaari zvakakosha.