Kubva panguva iyo, zvakawanda zvakachinja, uye ikozvino kuzvimirira kwevakadzi hakuna kunetsa munhu. Uyezve, akarega kuonekwa sechiratidzo chemusikana wekare kana kuti anorasikirwa asingakwanisi kuvaka hupenyu hwake. Zvino rusununguko pakati pemurume nemukadzi chikomborero icho vazhinji vanotsvaka. Asi haasi vose vanodzidza kurarama nayo. Saka ngatitarisei mhando dzakasiyana dzehukama hwakasununguka, uye sarudzai zvingaitwa navo.
Kusununguka kwepfungwa
Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinodzidza kuparara kwemhuri uye kuroora dzinoti chikamu chinokosha chokurambana pane chinangwa chemurume chikonzero nekuda kwekusimba kwakanyanya kwepfungwa kumudzimai. Kana mudzimai akaisa murume wake pakati pezvisikwa zvake uye zvaanoda zvinokosha kwaari, murume wacho anotambudzika. Uye paanozviisa pamusana pokuti haakwanisi kuita chisarudzo chiduku kunze kwake, anofara pamashoko ake ese omutsa uye anosuruvara kubva pane chiito chisingafungidziri, munhu anotanga kunetseka nemakumbo ake nemaoko. Zvinonyadzisa, asi varume kazhinji havadi kuva iyo chete inofadza yemudzimai wavo. Chero zvavanotaura nemashoko, vanozvifarira chaizvo kana mudzimai ane dzimwe nzira dzekuziva mafungiro ake, panzvimbo pokukurukura navo.
Kushushikana mupfungwa kunogona kuzviratidza mune dzimwe, kunyange mafomu asingafadzi. Semuenzaniso, kana mukadzi akakurira mumhuri umo maitiro anonyadzisa, iye nemurume wake vanoedza kumutsa kukakavadzana. Anounounza nechokuita, asi asingazvioneki, uye zvino nemufaro uye pfungwa yekuita zviitiko kune shamwari dzake dzokuti "vanhu vose vane bastard."
Zvinotarisa kuti kukwanisa kuwana manzwiro uye kukwanisa kuvadzingira kunze kwehukama pakati pemurume nemukadzi chinhu chinokosha chekubudirira muupenyu hwake hwega. Kana iwe uchida hukama hurefu uye hunofadza nomurume wake, enda kumitambo, kuratidzira, kutaura neshamwari neshamwari, verenga mabhuku, tarisa mafirimu akanaka, taura paInternet. Chinhu chikuru - usati waiswa pamurume. Havana kukanganwira izvi!
Kuvimba nemanzwiro emuzivi weErich Fromm anonzi "rudo-varanda." Anotenda kuti "rudo-rusununguko" chete runogona kupa munhu mufaro wechokwadi. Kusiyana pakati pavo kunogona kuratidzwa mumashoko mashoma. "Ndinokuda zvikuru, kuti kunze kwako ini handigone", "rudo-varanda". Uye kana iwe ukwanisa kutaura nehana yakachena: "Ndinokuda zvikuru, asi ndinogona kuita pasina iwe" - iyi rudo-rusununguko. Fromm aiva nechivimbo chokuti hukama hwakasimba, hwakasimba, hunofadza uye hwakabatana huri mumhuri mbiri iyo mumwe nomumwe wevakaroorana naye "akabudisa" mumwe mune rusununguko mupfungwa dzake. Muzvikamu zvakadai, kazhinji hapana murume kana mukadzi anoshatisa rusununguko rwavo, uye musaedza kukuvadza mumwe nomumwe, kuputsa mazano ehukama hwehukama hwakanaka, usaedza kuita shanje risingafungi uye vane godo ivo pachavo zvishoma.
Kusununguka kwezvemari
Vamwe vakadzi vanoti: "Takarwisana-takarwira zvevakadzi, ikozvino tiri kuronga." Zvichida, zvinoreva kuti varume vachangobva kugamuchira vachibvuma kukwanisa kwevakadzi kuti vazviriritire mari. Vanokwanisa kumubata nyore nyore kuti atsigire mhuri yake uye kuita zvisarudzo zvinokosha. Kuzvimiririra pakati pemurume nemukadzi, varume vacho vakawana kushandiswa kwavo. Uye ikozvino mhuri dzinowanikwa nemurume, uye mudzimai anogara kumba nevana, anova archaism.
Zvechokwadi, hapana chakaipa neicho. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzeAmerica dzakagara dzichiziva kuti mumhuri mune imwe nhengo yemhuri ine pfuma yake yezvokushandisa, vanowana nharo shomanana nekuda kwemari. Saka zvakajairika kumhuri ine utano, kana isisiri mudzimai zvakare, uye murume haachengeti bhajeti rose mumaoko ake. Uye kana mumwe nomumwe wavo achipa purojeti yemhuri, uye munhu wese-kusanganisira vana kubva pamakore gumi-ane bhajeti yake pachavo.
Pano zvakakodzera kutaura nezvekuti pane nguva iyo kupatsanurwa kwemabhadhadha kusina kukodzera. Kuberekwa uye kuberekwa kwomwana kunoita kuti mukadzi akwanise kuzviriritira kwechinguva. Saka hazvibatsiri kuvaka muchechi uye kusagadzikana kuzvimiririra kwemari pakati pemurume nemudzimai wake. Muzvinhu zvose pano inofanira kuva ne "golide kureva".
Kusununguka kwepabonde
Ndicho chinofanirwa kudziviswa muhukama, naizvozvo hukama hwakasununguka. Sezvo zvidzidzo zvemagariro evanhu vemagariro evanhu zvinoratidza, vamwe chete vanhu vanobva mumuganhu vanogona kupona maitiro "kune rumwe rutivi" rwevakaroorana navo kana mudzimai wavo vasina kugadzikana mupfungwa. Uye kunyange zvakadaro zvakanyanya kufanirwa kufunga pamusoro pemigumisiro kana iwe ukapiwa ukama umo mumwe nomumwe wevamwe vanogona kuva nehukama kune rumwe rutivi.
Kuvengana kunowanzoonekwa se "pfungwa yekusagadzikana" muhukama. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kupandukira kwakadaro nguva yakaoma muhupenyu hwemhuri, iyo inoshandura ukama huri mairi. Vakawanda vakaroorana munguva pfupi kana kuti gare gare chikamu mushure mekutengesa, kunyange kana kwekanguva vari kukwanisa kutarisa meso kune antics. Uye varume vane utsinye pane izvi pane vakadzi. Murume anogona kutaura kuti haasi kupesana nekuti mudzimai wake kana mudzimai anodiwa aedze zvepabonde nemumwe munhu. Zvisinei, mukuita, nokukurumidza kana zvasvika pakuzadzikisa, anowanzoratidza pachena hufeve yechikumbaridzo cheimba yake. Hazvisi zvakaoma kuratidza izvi. Kana munhu wako akati haasi kurwisana katatu, zvepabonde neboka kune rumwe rutivi, vamupe-zvingava zvekunakidza - zvepabonde kune vatatu. Uye iwe uchaona kuti nokuda kwepabonde, umo aripo uye vakadzi vaviri, achabvumirana zvikuru nekukurumidza uye nekuzvidira kupfuura pane zvepabonde, umo mauri iwe nevarume vaviri.
Kana iwe usingave wakashinga kuedza kutsvaga kwakadaro, ingovimba chete nemafungiro eyanzvi. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinoshanda zvakawanda nevanhu uye dzinoona rudzi rwehukama hunogona kutungamirira munhu kufara nekubatana, uye iyo inzira yekufa kusvika kune imwe nzvimbo. Sei iwe uchifanira kutarisa paganda rako chairo chinotarirwa nemazana eviri, uye uine matambudziko ako?