Zvidzidzo zvakasiyana-siyana zvinotaura kuti vashandi havaoni chero chinhu chinotyisa mukuita zvepabonde panzvimbo yebasa, asi kutungamira kazhinji kunotya kuti zvivako zvehofisi zvichange zvisingabatsiri pakubudirira uye mamiriro ezvinhu mumutambo. Kazhinji kacho, hukama hwepabonde pamabasa hunova hupfupi uye hushoma huri kupera muhukama hwehutano nekuroorana, kunyanya kana mumwe kana vose vevatori vechikamu munyaya ino vatove vakaroorana.
Iyo inoverengeka iri mumutauro we "mukuru-pasi" -iyo inowanikwa uye isingatauri chisarudzo chehukama hwehukama. Kazhinji kazhinji, ukama hwakadaro hunoguma muwanano. Uye kakawanda mushure mekuparara kwehukama huri pasi hunofanira kusiya.
Usati wasvika pakushamwaridzana kwakadaro kusingatauri, zvakakosha kufungisisa zvakananga nekuziva zvose zvinyorwa zvehukama uhwu, pamwe chete nezvinetso zvingave zvinosanganisira. Chokutanga, maneja anowanzotora, uye kana mudzimai wake akazviziva, haasi iye chete kuti haafaniri kuwirirana nekuti iye ane muvengi, asiwo anogona kukonzera hupenyu hwomupikisi uyu. Chechipiri, kana kutarisa kwomukuru kunoshandiswa kune umwe mushandi, ipapo mudzimai wekutanga angangowira kamwe kamwe pasi pechipupuriro. Chechitatu, uyo anotarisana neshamwari achasangana nekunyomba uye kupiwa mhosva kana hukama huri kurambidzwa hunova huri hwehofisi yehurumende. Kuputsa muhukama kunogona kutungamirira pakuwa kwebasa rekunamata.
Nokuti mutariri, zvakare, ane matambudziko avo mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Kana akachera nhauri nechepasi, haangatongove nechokwadi chekutendeseka kwemanzwiro ake, uye dzimwe nguva achauya nechinangwa chokuti pasi anongoda kuendesa mberi kwebasa remhizha.
Izvi zvinoitika kune imwe nzira kumativi ose - hukama muhutano "boss-subordinate". Mukubatana kwakadaro, dzakawanda zvipingamupinyi. Mukadzi achafungira kuti, zvichida, munhu anoshandisa izvi nokuda kwezvinangwa zvavo. Bhizimisi anogona kukanganisa kutendeseka. Uye, hongu, zvakare kune ngozi kune basa.
Uyezve, pane nguva zhinji mavhisi emabasa pakati pevamwe vashandi. Zviri nyore nyore pano, sezvo hukama hwemurume hunobuda pakati pekuenzana. Asi pano haikwanise kuita pasina matambudziko. Chokutanga, basa redu rinogona kutambura. Chechipiri, ukama hwakadaro hunowanzoshora zviremera, kana inozikanwa ichiva kuzivikanwa. Mune hurumende iyo hurumende ichaita sei kune nhau dzekushumira kwako rudo, zvinoenderana nebasa rako nebasa remumwe wako.
Kunyange vako vashandi pamwe chete havazosiyi mukana wekucheka uye makuhwa pamusoro pako, anokupa mhosva, kunyanya kana mumwe nomumwe wenyu akaroorwa. Vashandi vanogona uye havazo "kubvisa tsvina kubva muimba" (kunyange vanhu vakasiyana), asi kuti iwe nezvose zvese zvehukama hwako huchava musoro wekutaurirana kusina maturo uye makuhwa haana kukwana, nokuti zvose zviri pachena. Uye, hongu, iwe uchatongwa. Mushure mezvose, chokwadi, iwe hausi kungova nerudo rwevamwe vanhu vaviri vakasununguka, imi muri vanoda, nokuti kunewo zvigaro zvepamutemo zvinonyengerwa, zvavanoshandura. Nyaya dzakawanda dzevhidhiyo dzebasa munguva pfupi kana kuti gare gare dzinova pachena, kunyange iwe uri kuedza zvakaoma kuti uvanze hukama huno.
Mukuwedzera, boka racho harisi nguva dzose, asi pane dzimwe nguva kungave kune vamwe vanoita tsika kana avo vanongorwara chete vanofunga kuti iri basa ravo kurondedzera basa rakarambidzwa romudo kumukadzi wemutemo kana murume.
Pane zvimwe zvipingamupinyi zvehukama hwakadaro. Kana iwe usingatauri munzira yakanakisisa, iwe mose muchave wakaoma uye muchafanira kubhadhara rugare. Semuenzaniso, iwe wakaputsa nekunyepedzera. Chii chichave chakafanana kuona mumwe nomumwe wevhiki rese, zuva rimwe nerimwe kwemaawa masere, ona kutsamwa mukati meumwe? Uye dzimwe nguva chido chekare chinogonawo kutanga kutsiva pane chimwe chinhu, makuhwa pamusoro pako, kuputsa nhema, edza kuparadza basa rako nezvimwe zvakadaro. Zvikwangwani, maitiro, makuhwa, matambudziko, urongwa hunoenderera mberi nekuenderera mberi. Uye zvichava zvakaoma kwauri, uye izvi hazvigone kufadza zviremera.
Vamwe vanotoda kusiya kana matambudziko akadaro anotanga nevaya vaimbova vanoda. Zviri nani kuchengetedza mukurumbira, kuwana mazano akanaka uye uzviwane iwe umwe basa rakanaka kupfuura kumirira kusvikira mamiriro acho ezvinhu asvika kumuganhu. Kuzvidza uye kupesana kwekudzidziswa kwebasa kuchaparadza zvikuru mukurumbira wako pamberi pevakuru nevashandi pamwe chete, uye mazano angadaro haafaniri kunge akanaka. Nei matambudziko akadaro? Kushumira romudo - ukama hwepedyo neurosis. Uye izvi zvingave basa rei? Kazhinji munhu anogona kuyananisa nekubudirira inovhidhi yebasa uye zvibereko zvakakura zvebasa.
Kana iwe mose musina vanhu vakasununguka, nei muchida matambudziko aya? Matambudziko achave ari kushanda, mumhuri, uye mumhuri yega. Kunyange kana muedzo wacho wakakura, zviri nani kubatisisa, kwete kutsika pamakumbo emudzipa, hazvifananidzi kuisa mungozi kumhuri yako uye kushanda, nokuti kuburitswa ndezvechokwadi. Uye, sezvatotaurwa, huwandu hwevheti dzebasa hunopera mukuparadzanisa, uye kwete nehukama hwehukama nemichato. Zvakachengeteka kuti urege kubatana uku kusina tariro. Sei uchigadzira zvinetso paunoshandisa maawa 8 pazuva?
Zvose izvi zvinogona kudzivirirwa kana iwe usingadi kutsvaga, uye nenzira yakarurama uye yepamhizha inoshanda kubasa, usabvumira mafungiro uye zvido zvenguva refu kutora pfungwa dzako uye kunzwisisa. Tinofanira kufunga pamusoro pemigumisiro.
Mukuwedzera, apo rudo rwebasa nematambudziko ose anokonzerwa naro apera, vanhu vazhinji vanozvidemba kuti vakatanga "kuchinja" mumabasa.
Isu isu tose hatisi vakasununguka, rudo rwebasa runobereka ... Sei? Iva nemwero, fungidzira zvinobudirira uye zvakashata, funga nezvezvinetso zvinogona kubuda kubva kune rudo runebasa kubasa, uye pamusoro pemarwadzo anogona kukonzerwa nekuvhara vanhu. Iva nemufaro!