Ngatitaure nezvekubatsira munhu mushure mekuparadzanisa nemunhu waunoda.
Mushure mekuparadzanisa, munhu wacho ari munharaunda yekusava nehanya kwakakwana, anonzwa kusuruvara, kuzvikudza kwake, chido chokurarama, kunowira zvakanyanya. Zvichinyatsojeka, akarasa kuravira kwehupenyu. Pasina mubvunzo, anoda rubatsiro rwepfungwa uye rubatsiro, izvo zvichamubatsira kudzokera kumufaro uye kufara.
Chinhu chokutanga kuti utaure kune munhu akadzingwa: "Haugoni kubatsira misodzi!". Zvichida mumwe munhu achawana izvi zvisina musoro, asi munhu akasiyiwa uye asina kufara anofanira, kutanga, ose, kuvhundusa, kurarama nekuita. Nokudaro, zvakakosha kuti zviitike "kumisa" misodzi, uye kutanga nzira iyo mberi - yakarurama kune ramangwana, rinopenya uye rinonyanya kukosha remangwana rakanaka.
Kuguma kwehukama hwehukama - izvi ndezvokuti kune vakomana vaviri vakaora mwoyo mupfungwa. Kunyanya, izvi zvinoshanda kumatambudziko apo mumwe muvakidzani ane utsinye uye akaipa akakanda imwe. Vanachiremba vanokwanisa - psychologists vanoti mwedzi miviri yokutanga mushure mekuputsika ndiko kwakaoma zvikuru kune munhu akasiyiwa. Asi nguva iyi inogona kuderedzwa zvakanyanya kana iri "yakarurama" kubatsira rubatsiro.
Chinhu chokutanga kutsanangurira musikana asina kusiyiwa (kana mukomana): ukama hwakaguma nokusingaperi, hakuna kudzoka shure. Sezvo mutemo, zvakaoma zvikuru kuti munhu anzwe uye azvione izvi, asi kana achidaro kakawanda anozvitaura zvinonzwika, uye kunzwa kubva kune vamwe, nokukurumidza kurwadziwa kwemashoko aya kuchaenda, uye ichi ndicho chiito chakakura kwazvo kune "kudzorera".
Munhu haafaniri kusara ari oga nematambudziko ake. Ichi ndicho chinhu chinonyanya kukosha mubatsiro rekubatsira munhu mushure mekuparadzanisa nemunhu waunoda. Anofanirwa kunge ari panze, kusangana neshamwari, kana kuti zviri nani, zvekuti anotaura nezvekunzwa kwake, sevanhu vakawanda sezvinobvira. Iyi nzira inonzi "kuparara kwekutambudzika". Ndokusaka vazhinji vanofunga nezvepfungwa vanofunga kuti kana munhu ane shamwari dzakawanda zviri nyore kwaari kuti apone matambudziko ose.
Kana iri munhu akavharwa uyo asingakwanisi kugoverana kushungurudzika kwake nevamwe, ipapo ngaaite kuti ave nedhiyadhi iyo acharinyora pamusoro pezvose zvaanoona. Uyezve, pakupa chinangwa chematambudziko pamapepa, munhu anogona kunzwisisa zviri nani mamiriro ezvinhu akaitika.
Mushure memazuva mashomanana, munhu anoda kurapwa. Inosanganisira pane zvinotevera: garai pamberi pegirazi uye mumubvunze kuti azviudze nezvematambudziko ake. Izvi zvinobatsira kugadzirisa kuunganidza kuora mwoyo. Uye zvinonyanya kukosha, kana munhu apedzisa nyaya yake, ngaayemwere pagirazi yake chimiro, iye pachake haazocherechedzi kuti zvinomufadza sei.
Danho rinotevera nderekuenda kushanda. Chero chiremba achasimbisa kuti iyi ndeimwe yemishonga yakanakisisa kune chero kukanganisa uye matambudziko. Icho basa rinogona "kuvhomora" munhu kana richiva rakaoma kwaari. Zvakanaka uye zvinonyanya kukosha, shanda semushonga wepfungwa, mune imwe yenzira yakawanda kupfuura vamwe vose: inobhadharwawo.
Kana munhu ane basa re "kugara pasi", somuenzaniso, muhofisi, anofanira kunyanya kumanikidzwa kupinda mubasa rebasa, uye zvakanyanya, zviri nani. Mweya yedu nemuviri hazvigoni kuwirirana, uye kana muviri uchineta - mweya unova nyore. Anokwanisa kuita chero chinhu: mitambo, imba yose yekuchenesa, kunyange kugadziriswa.
Yeuka imwe murairo unokosha: mukushanda kwe "kurapa" munhu haafaniri kuvanza manzwiro ake echokwadi, ngaaite kuti aone, kuchema, aputse ndiro. Kana munhu akachengetedza zvinhu zvose mukati make, zvino manzwiro achatanga "kumupwanya", kumuparadza iye kubva mukati.
Zvisikwa! Heano imwe chirwere chekutambudzika: rwendo rwokuenda kudondo, makomo, kugungwa kana kuti kusvika paki, rinobatsira munhu kuona kuti hupenyu hunopfuurira, nyika inotendeuka, miti inokura. Kazhinji kacho, munhu ari mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma sepfungwa haadi kuenda chero kupi zvako, asi anofanira kumanikidzwa, zvinokosha kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti hupenyu hwake huzere nezviitiko.
Maererano nevakawanda vezvepfungwa, yoga nekufungisisa ndiyo nzira dzakanakisisa dzokugadzirisa kusvimha misodzi. Kufungisisa kunobatsira munhu kuti afukidze muviri uye saka akadzikama mweya, pamwe nezvose zvinogara kwenguva refu maitiro ekudzidzira kurara.
Kana mushure mokuputsa pane vhiki imwe chete, pane nguva yekurapa imwezve: "kukanda kunze kwekare - kurega mune imwe itsva". Inokurudzira "murwere" kukanda kunze kwezvinhu zvose izvo nenzira inokuyeuchidza yewaimbova shamwari yako. Zviri pachena kuti zvose zvinoyeuchidza pamusoro payo: firati, masvingo uye kunyange mumigwagwa, iyo yakarembedzana vaviri vakaroorana. Asi iwe unoda kubvisa zvachose: tsamba, mapikicha, nezvimwe. Pamusoro peizvi, zvakakosha kurasa kunze kwekuverengazve uye kusatarisa mifananidzo yekare.
Mushure memwedzi, munhu anotanga kunzwa kuti kutambura kukuru kwapfuura, kurwadziwa kunopera, zviri nyore kupema. Asi izvi zvinonzwa, sekutonga, zvinonyengera. Ichokwadi ndechokuti mushure mekushungurudzwa kwechisimba, kunouya "kunyarara", kunetseka kwakanyanya, izvo zvinowanzokonzera kurwadziwa. Nokudaro, kana munhu akabatwa ane mukana wezvemari, saka zvakanakisisa kuenda parwendo, zvichida mudiki, asi kwevhiki. Kubva parwendo, anobva adzoka munhu akasiyana zvachose. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinofunga kuti mishonga yakanakisisa yehutsva "hunyarara" hutsva hutsva hutsva, vatsva vanoziva.
Iye zvino chinhu chikuru hachisi kurega munhu wacho asiye nzira yakarongwa, ari kutodzokera kuupenyu, asi achiri kuda nguva. Panguva iyo yaanoda kutaura zvakawanda, regai ataure kuti upenyu hwake hwakanga huripo vasati vasangana newaimbova shamwari, chii chaive akapfuma, mabhuku aakaverenga panguva iyo, mafirimu aaida, kwaaienda kunofara neshamwari, kwaakaenda kwevhiki. Chinonyanya kukosha, kunyengetedza "murwere" kusiya nzira ipi neipi yekutsiva, zvinokosha kuti aratidze kwaari kuti "kugadzirira kutsiva, ivo vari kugadzirira guva raviri" uye kuti haringauyisi munhu chero upi zvake rubatsiro, asi kunononoka kudarika "kuronga".